Last update: 16 November 2015
- Let them go, Lucia- said the grandmother from who knows where.
– Chi?
- The tears! Sometimes it seems so many that we feel like we are drowning, but that's not the case.
- Do you think they will stop going out one day?
- Of course! - the grandmother replied with a sweet smile - The tears do not stay long, they do their job and then continue on their way.
- And what's their job?
- I'm water, Lucia! They wash and lighten ... Like rain. Everything looks different after the rain ...
The rain knows why (La pioggia sa perché) – MarÃa Fernanda Heredia
Unfortunately, our society does not allow us to cry. It is like a kind of mandatory rule that we obey when we want others to perceive a good image of us.
However, giving ourselves permission to express our emotions is a source of liberation that we must take advantage of. For this reason, we have to get rid of that inner self that doesn't stop telling us that strong adults don't cry.
After the storm, the serene always returns
You must always remember that everything passes. This means that, even if you are shrouded in darkness, you will gradually see the light. This will allow you to appreciate the peace that comes from emptying yourself within.
To be able to understand a little better our emotions and the different ways they manifest themselves, just get closer to yourself and the way we express ourselves or don't express ourselves. This means that we must stop and think if what makes us feel bad is actually outside or, on the contrary, inside us.
This means that we know that hiding our sadness is part of a series of defense mechanisms that we use as armor, but when we try to protect ourselves "from what others think," we are actually sinking our identity and boycotting our self-knowledge.
Emotions are not overcome
We should neither try to overcome our sadness, nor should we think that it will. We must not conflict with what we feel. If we think about it, it is not at all productive to fight against ourselves.
We need to forget what society has taught us and be able to embrace our demons, because they are not the villains in the story.
It's not about necessarily expressing our emotions, one way or another, because each of us has our own way of expressing feelings. They must be valued as messengers of what is difficult to express in words.
Since our emotions always accompany us, we must accept them and have a natural relationship with them, without forcing ourselves, trying to establish a link between them and our body.
Don't imprison your emotions, live them
You have probably tried to confine your emotions within four mental walls on more than one occasion. Maybe you did and it felt like a small victory.
Instead, it is likely that by doing so, you are fueling a series of harmful emotions. Although sadness is good for you, accumulated sadness can become very complicated and turn into depression.
This means that everything, in excess, is harmful, and if it also contaminates your inner self, even worse. We must therefore listen to anger or sadness as much as happiness. In this way, you will be able to prevent them from turning into monsters such as anger, depression or excessive optimism that can cause problems.
Let your emotions out and listen to what they have to tell you. If you don't, you will create a load that will result in an emotional outburst, blocking your reactions.
Laugh when you can and when you need it, but do not forget that your tears must also come out every now and then, because they will help you to see life more clearly and, above all, your inner self.
