Last update: February 22, 2015
An inappropriate comment, an insult or simply an affront are often enough reasons for us to lose control. And it is in these moments that anger takes over. When this happens, do we stop being ourselves or do we let our true identity out?
Don't get angry
Some people get carried away by impulses more easily than others. As you all know, there are hot-tempered people and quieter people. But is it good to get angry? Somehow, we release what we have inside of us, such as hatred or pent-up anger. On the other hand, we cause a conflict situation and generate even more hatred. So what needs to be done? Contain yourself? Many refrain from commenting when offended and release their grudge by punching the wall or breaking what they are holding. Perhaps, however, the solution goes further: what if we avoid this feeling of anger?
If you are able not to be offended when a person provokes you, you will also be able to control your anger. The proverb "in foolish words, deaf ears" sums up this attitude well. In this case, you must realize that when someone tries to offend or provoke you, they are only insulting themselves.. He is being insolent, disrespectful, immature, etc. If you are able to understand this, then you will be able to control your anger.
Know when to act
It is clear that sometimes even the most patient person is unable to contain himself or to bear certain insults or offenses. But this is another matter. What you can control are all the in-between situations, often unimportant, that arise day after day. We are not saying to be humiliated or insulted, just try to manage the situation without being carried away by emotions. You need to control impulsive reactions and understand when it is best to be silent and when to speak instead. You need to know when to smile and when to refrain from any gesture. All this without showing you too cowardly or too bold. Rather, be cautious.
Because the one who screams is not always the bravest, just as the one who speaks little is not always the most cowardly. Life teaches us that often those who seem the bravest are actually the most cowardly. For this reason, one must learn to control one's emotions. Especially the anger.
