Last update: June 13, 2016
In life sad situations often arise that make us suffer or put a strain on our optimism and our will to live. However, the secret is knowing how to deal with adversity and how we allow these circumstances to affect us, how we accept them and how we manage them to prevent them from paralyzing us or making us lose the joy of living.
We all know that there are people who, when faced with negative circumstances, end up sinking into sadness, while others are still sad, but show strength and will to live, no matter how difficult the situation is. We can learn a lot from these people, from so-called resilient people, to understand how to prevent a negative situation from suffocating and paralyzing us.
"If it is not in your power to change a situation that creates pain, you can always devise the attitude with which to face this suffering"
-Viktor Frankl-
The power of resilient people
Resilience is the ability of people to accept difficult situations, to overcome them and to come out of them even stronger. It is not an innate ability, but a virtue that can be learned and developed, which also allows you to adopt a more positive point of view from which to contemplate life.
This means that a person is not born resilient, but makes himself so. In general, these are people who have had to face many adversities, who have suffered and who, despite this, have come out stronger and who give us a lesson in courage and personal overcoming every day.
“There are only two ways of living one's life: one as if nothing were a miracle; the other as if everything were a miracle "
-Albert Einstein-
Resilient people know their strengths and weaknesses perfectly and it is precisely the power of self-knowledge that allows them to set precise goals to crown their dreams and make them come true.
They are creative people, who have learned to get up when they fall, to see the positive side in every situation, without becoming demoralized and without losing hope.
6 tips to overcome adversity
The disappearance of a loved one, a disappointment in love, the loss of a job, the illness of a friend… these are all situations that, probably, everyone has to face at a certain moment. However, we can choose how we feel in these situations, to be able to deal with them in the best way. Below we list 6 tips to follow to overcome adversity and to make everyday life more positive.
Accept difficult situations
There are many complicated circumstances that we have to face in life and one of the most important things is knowing how to manage these situations and their consequences in the right way. Accepting difficulties does not mean that you cannot feel sad or frustrated, but that you have to let your emotions outbut don't let them invade your life.
In this regard, you can cry, but it is then It is advisable to focus on other commitments that will help you keep your mind busy, to prevent your thoughts from returning to a recurring idea. Leave the house, take a walk, read ...
Move your body and mind
Mental health depends a lot on both how much we train the brain and how much we train the body. It is for this reason that we advise you to study, read, learn without ever stopping. Never stop feeling curious and put your brain to work. In addition, you must also move your body, go out for a walk, run, ride a bicycle… It doesn't matter what the physical activity is, as long as you enjoy it and push you to keep moving.
Practice your passions
There is certainly something you have wanted to do all your life. Studying a subject that has always fascinated you, dancing, singing, writing ... The time has come to do it and to know that you choose, you take the reins of your life to enjoy it to the fullest.
Enjoy the pleasure of traveling
Traveling involves many teachings. It is not just a question of visiting a place, but also of letting oneself be invaded by the sensations, smells and colors of the place where we are, by the smiles of the people and by the landscapes, to learn to see the world with different eyes. For this reason, if you have the chance to travel, do it! Get out there and get to know the world and experience it.
Speak with someone
If there is something that worries you a lot, try to talk about it with someone, a friend, a relative or your partner, to be able to share with them your fears and what is hurting you. Often others have a more objective view of the situation, which will allow you to see everything in a more general way and without being influenced so much by your feelings. If necessary, you can also seek the help of a psychologist to talk to and to explain your concerns to.
Learning from difficulties
Adversity can teach us to appreciate many things that we previously did not value, they can teach us a lot about ourselves and how we deal with situations and, above all, they impart life lessons that we must learn and never forget.
If it is difficult for you to learn or if you cannot understand how to learn from a difficult situation, try talking to someone to help you look at the facts objectively. Try to look with their eyes and learn from that different perspective.
“One day, you will hit rock bottom; you will reach the limit and from there your personal revolution will begin "
-Walter Rice-
