Last update: December 10, 2015
If there is anything that really bothers, it is certainly lies and untruth. Both are capable of destroying everything, devastating the most lush woods and bringing down even the tallest towers.
The saddest aspect of hypocrisy and deceit is that they often don't come from our enemies or strangers. And as is to be expected, this hurts. When we are deceived, the worst thing is not the lies themselves, but all that they entail.
One lie changes everything
Lies and untruths are, to a large extent, a matter of habit. There are many people skilled in the art of lying, able to deceive anyone in a truly surprising way.
As you all know, habitual lying can become a serious psychological problem. Fake people sell smoke at any price just to get some personal benefit or, worse, with the simple purpose of deceiving others..
Other times, the lies may be "justified" as a mistake in the action, but not in the intention. They are the so-called "white lies", pronounced in the belief that the truth can do more harm than the lie itself.
There are those who argue that any lie is the result of negative relationships, but certainly the human being, at times, cannot see other shades than black and white.
With time, everything comes to light
Lies and deceit always have an expiration date, in fact they need a lot of circumstances to stand up. Eventually, however, you enter a huge circle that the liar is no longer able to handle.
However, even if it is very difficult for a lie to last over time, it is normal for others to be able to deceive us for a long time. We may have many clues in front of us, but the most likely thing is that bonds and emotional ties blind us to the truth..
Lies and falsehood: two deep wounds in the soul
Betraying the people who love us is one of the most terrible gestures that a human being goes through. It is difficult to impose yourself on the discovery of a lie because the deception itself has the ability to completely destroy our world.
A betrayed person is more than a wounded person. She is a person who has lost her north, who has lost her compass, who she does not understand, who feels tremendous confusion, who must demolish her refuge, who no longer knows where to put her feelings and that she considers herself profoundly stupid.
It is someone who turns uncovered, who is stripped naked and feels ridiculous. Someone who has to learn from scratch, who has to rebuild his walls, who has to start walking again and plug the holes. He is someone who, despite being mortally wounded, must revive himself and does not know how to do it.
Healing the wounds caused by betrayal
Over time, the initial anger and helplessness are very likely to turn into grief for all that has been lost, broken, faded. And it is precisely in those moments that we can begin to heal the wounds of betrayal and to better value loyalty..
Overcoming a betrayal takes time and to succeed, you must first forgive yourself and stop torturing yourself for something you thought you could avoid, but which happened. In this way, it will be easier to achieve peace with the world and to return to trust in others.
If in your life you have been lied to and hurt you, don't punish yourself by thinking that all people will behave the same way, otherwise it would be like thinking that, because once you have won the lottery, then you will win every time you buy a ticket.
Illustrations courtesy of Nicoletta Ceccoli.
