Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: December 14, 2021
Life companions are those people who mean a lot more than words can explain. They are an essential part of us, of our nights and days, of our ideas, our emotions, our dreams and our worries.
Companionship in love is more than being passionate lovers or wearing an engagement ring; it is loving each other without excuses, or ups and downs, it is accepting oneself, helping oneself to grow, walking by the hand through life and feeling full of love.
It means being the best mattress for falls. A coat for the winter. A breath of fresh air in moments of hell. The sun and the stars, a sky full of vitality.
-You love me?
-Yup.
-How many?
-How many are your faults
Only when one manages to accept the other as he is, does one have love
Life partners love in a way that makes the other person feel free. The beauty of a love like this is the conjunction, forming an emotional hearth, a way in which there is nothing more beautiful than the two relatives.
It could be said that the love that accompanies it is love squared, the one to which almost all of us aspire and in which commitment, passion and friendship are mixed.
We cannot half love, we cannot "love" a single part of our partner. If we don't do it in its totality, we are not loving anything. This is not to say that there aren't things we don't like, but ultimately it is the essence that we need to love fully.
"Ti amo so much to invite you to step on the dry leaves in the afternoon. Ti amo when we go out for a walk, when we talk about love, while we still walk. Ti amo when we laugh out loud, drunk on nothing and when we stroll unhurriedly through the streets.
Ti amo enough to go with you to places I usually go to and tell you that that's where I sit and think of you. Ti amo so much that I could hear you laugh all night. Ti amo so much that you never let go again.
Ti amo how you love certain loves, old-fashioned, with the soul and without looking back.
-Jaime Sabines. Mexican poet. -
Loving is an art based on honesty
Loving is an art that requires patience, attention, discipline, responsibility and commitment. It is a game of silence, knowledge, respect, freedom, trust and gifts. With all these elements, letting yourself be loved is complicated.
To have all this, you need to know how to reinvent yourself and overcome your difficulties. You have to respect your own rhythms, know your needs, avoid attachment, get rid of expectations, be generous and forgive.
Being a perfect couple, a job for two
Being a perfect couple does not mean not having problems, but knowing how to overcome them together. We have to get angry, fight, impose on ourselves, compete, judge, fall into error, get some air, count to ten and let go of everything that torments us.
Achieving the rank of "life partners" requires breaking down old walls and healing the wounds of one's emotional past. To believe in love, you need to believe in yourself first, cling to the present, collect motifs and have great desire.
Particular attention must be paid so that everyone walks their own personal path, in accepting their limits and loving their difficulties. We have to "allow ourselves to be", turn into a beautiful love, have the audacity to take off our armor to accept and appreciate our vulnerability.
“The true goal of existence
does not consist in loving,
much less does it consist in letting oneself be loved.
It consists simply and clearly
in transforming oneself into love ".
-Thomas Schied-
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