Last update: 08 November 2015
I haven't met her, but I haven't even looked for her… I've always thought that there are things that just happen. I haven't found a person who changed my life and that it made me believe it was worthwhile to walk the road together.
I admit I tried, but every attempt vanished like a smoke screen. I live my hen party with happiness.
Whose fault is it? But above all, is it right to use this terrible term, so strong, but not necessarily right, guilt ...?
In these cases, when it comes to this, perhaps there are no culprits, it is simply life. Yet I feel happy; I have so many projects to carry on with myself, still thousands of things to do in life. I have my friends, people who really appreciate and love me.
"It is better to be alone than unhappy with someone"
-Marilyn Monroe-
Although by now I have noticed that everyone around me managed to find love, and some have even managed to keep it alive despite the passing of worthy years, of everyday life and differences, I have continued to be the same, for someone perhaps immobile, paralyzed, but this is their problem, not mine.
I feel so full with myself, that I no longer need to look for someone with the same commitment I used to do when I was young.
I could even write a funny book with all my adventures and misadventures; all my attempts, some deliberately sought by me, others arrived by pure chance, but all characterized by the same illusion ... The illusion of having finally found my love, my life partner.
Sometimes I even felt under pressure from society, which sees the ideal state in the couple, the most normal thing for everyone once they reach a certain age.
Now my question is: "what is normal?". Of course, everything that is conventional is normal, what is established within every society ... Yet I never cared about what others might think or say about me behind my back.
What really interests me it is my happiness, whether I am alone or in company, as long as it is my happiness. It is not for nothing that there is the saying "Better alone than badly accompanied, but better accompanied if the company is pleasant".
Well this that's what I'm looking for, knowing how to appreciate life for what it is knowing how to laugh with my friends, enjoy the sun, the sea, feel the luck that accompanies me every day knowing that I can see, hear, feel, fight, have fun.
Live the hen party with happiness and forget about all stereotypes
- Appreciate what you have. Don't you realize that sometimes it doesn't matter what you have or don't have? It is you who are not happy. Reassess your situation better and learn to be happy with yourself.
- Detach yourself from the old conventionalisms. Life is no longer like it used to be, luckily there are hundreds of new formulas: single, married, separated, couples living together ... The important thing is to be happy with what you have.
- Do not idealize the situation of others, nor underestimate it to try to feel better.
- Don't obsess about it. Have you stopped to think about all the wonderful things you are missing and all the time wasted because your mind is mulling over the idea of ​​having a mate? Get rid of these thoughts! The only person who will always be by your side is yourself. So why don't you start enjoying your company?
- Choose special people to share the way with. There are people in your family with whom you have a special affinity, friends who meet along the way and who really change our lives. Don't let these special people get away from you.
