Last update: 20 November 2015
Love cannot be defined, because to define means to limit and love has no limits.
Perfection does not exist, not even in love. However, it is important to aspire to have the best, what is most satisfying and beneficial.
In love we must not be satisfied, but we must work hard to be honest with ourselves and with our feelings.
Enjoy full and authentic love it requires a previous interior work which can be arduous. To do this, we must untie ourselves from all the chains that hold our previous ideas together.
There is no soul mate, there is no one who completes us, we are not anyone's reason for life nor should we aspire to be.. It is not easy to internalize these concepts because, as we have already said on other occasions, they clash with the hyper-romantic ideas that we have absorbed throughout our lives thanks to Disney fairy tales and Hollywood films.
It is not the affection that is harmful, nor the attachment or desire towards someone, but the exaggerated attachment and dependence on the other intended as the only embodiment.
Once you understand that we cannot pass on the responsibility of completing ourselves on anyone, to fill our gaps or to resolve our inner conflicts, we will understand what we can expect from genuine love.
Authentic love: the basis of our well-being
Affection and healthy love teach you to observe the looks of complicity, to indulge caresses and to grasp the reality of happiness with strength.
An unhealthy love is what causes us to lose our orientation, our own identity and our relationships due to immersion in a feeling that completely absorbs us.
This is not perfect love, however much they have sold us the idea that love must be very intense and forces us to change our universe.
An authentic love is not even one without problems and arguments, but rather the one that is capable of resolving differences and living with incompatible aspects.
Love needs a place to swing, sleep and rest. It needs you to exist, because if you don't love yourself you can never love someone else. And, at the same time, it needs the other to be able to realize itself; both parties are essential.
“Eventually you realize that the details are the most important thing. The conversations at 3 in the morning, the spontaneous smiles, the hideous photos that make you die of laughter, the ten-word poems that tear a tear from you. Books that no one else knows and they become your favorites, a flower that he places in your hair, a coffee ... These are the things they really deserve: the little things that provoke gigantic emotions. "
An authentic love, not like the one you see in movies, is built day after day without laws or schedules. A loyal love is not one that knows everything about you, but one that does not need to investigate and that respects your intimacy.
It can understand your past and your present. He is not betrayed, he is not hurt and he is not abandoned. He doesn't say hello because he doesn't go away, he gives security and not fear, he offers trust and not doubts.
Sincerity is based on the respect to rediscover the qualities and defects of our partner every day, to appreciate the small details and to immerse ourselves in the everyday life of the love that remains.
The awareness of knowing that there is a place where, even if the world should collapse, one can stay protected and safe. An authentic love does not ask to form a perfect team, but a strong and determined team.
Perfect love does not exist, but authentic love does. It is what makes itself known for what it gives and not for what it demands. The one that makes the soul smile and not the one that subdues. Not a love between soulmates, but between aware and balanced souls.
