Last update: October 13, 2015
Our cells divided and developed to the rhythm of his heartbeat: our skin, our hair, our heart, our lungs and our bones were powered by his blood, blood full of neurochemicals that formed in response. to his thoughts, beliefs and emotions. If he was afraid, if he was feeling anxious, nervous or if he was sick because of the pregnancy, our body was aware of it; if she was happy, confident and satisfied, even then, we knew it.
Christiane Northrup
Each daughter brings her own mother with her. It is an eternal bond that we will never be able to break. Because, this is clear, we will always carry something of our mothers with us.
To be healthy and happy, each of us needs to know how our mother has affected our story and how she continues to do so. Our mother is the one who made us experience affection and support before we were born. And it is thanks to her that we have understood what it means to be women and how to heal or neglect our body.
What we inherit from our mothers
Any woman, whether she is a mother or not, carries with her the consequences of the relationship she had with her mother. If her mother has given her positive messages regarding the female body and how to make it work and care for it, her teachings will always be part of a guide to her physical and emotional health.
However, a mother's influence can be problematic when the role it plays is toxic, as a result of his jealous attitude, based on control and blackmail.
When we can understand the effects that growth has had on us, we will begin to be willing to understand ourselves, to heal ourselves, to be able to assimilate what we think about our body or to explore what we consider possible to achieve in life.
Maternal attention, an essential nutrient for all life
When a camera shoots a person in the audience during a sporting event or any other event, what do people usually say? "Hello Mom!".
Almost all of us feel the need to be seen by our mothers, we seek their approval. Initially this dependence is due to biological causes, because we need our mother to survive, for many years; however, the need for affection and approval is forged from the very first moment, from when we see her looking at us to see if we are doing things right and to give us a caress.
Exactly as Northrup tells us, the mother-daughter bond is strategically designed to be one of the most positive, understanding and intimate relationships we have in life. Even if things don't always go this way ...
Over the years this need for approval can turn into pathology, generating emotional obligations that will lead our mother to hold the power to control our well-being for all or most of our life.
How to start growing as women and as daughters?
The decision to grow up involves healing emotional wounds or any issue that has remained unresolved in the first half of our life. This step is not easy, because first we need to understand what are the aspects of the mother-daughter relationship that need to be resolved and healed.
Our feelings of present and future value depend on these. This happens because there is always a part of us that thinks that we need to be over-dedicating to our family or partner to deserve their love.
Motherhood and even the love of a woman are cultural synonyms of sacrifice in the collective opinion. This supposes that our needs always remain connected to the fulfillment of those of others. Consequently, we do not devote ourselves to cultivating our minds as women, but to shape the society in which we live at will.
The world's expectations of us can come to be truly cruel. In fact, they constitute a real poison that forces us to forget about our individuality.
Source consulted: Mothers and Daughters of Christiane Northrup
