Last update: October 01, 2015
Relationships change and love ends is a fact. Aware of this, we know that one day we will be able to go from first to second or even third floor. However, these changes don't happen overnight, much less in a relationship where there is truly love.
When we experience this on our skin, we begin to structure a mind map with the aim of understanding what were the causes that led that person to ignore us. Obviously, the direct consequence of brainstorming with these issues is very simple: we will end up making mental films that not even we ourselves will believe.
We try to justify the person who ignores us, to whom we are indifferent and who, moreover, hurts us. We endure sleepless nights, destroy our self-esteem, say goodbye to pride and reduce our self-love to crumbs.
In the end, we have before our eyes a bleak panorama: we have destroyed ourselves and the person we have or had at our side is stronger than before. True, you are probably on the ground, but there is nothing better than touching the bottom in order to rise to the surface.
At the same instant in which we realize that we have not been interested in that person for some time now, we understand that we have to dedicate ourselves to ourselves. If you find yourself in this situation, you will have to be able to create a network of healthy exchanges thanks to which you will no longer allow anyone to destroy you.
How to quickly understand if that person really doesn't care?
In the end, everything can be summed up in one sentence: if someone is not capable of not making us suffer, they do not deserve our love. Love is not a question of protagonism, ideals or pride. These only increase self-destruction.
Love is complicity and teamwork, it is being able to trust each other. To love implies a responsibility, to take charge of sad moments and to share and enjoy the happy ones, go hand in hand and accompany each other. If all this is missing, there is something wrong ...
"When in a relationship you realize that the other person could save you from suffering and does not, it means that it is all over."
4 signs that it does not value you
1. He does not avoid you suffering because his life is more important
The fact that his pride, commitments or interests are worth more than your well-being is a clear indication that things are really bad between you two.
2. He never pleases you and makes you feel guilty and selfish when you ask him for your space
It is understood that both this point and the previous one are not impossible things. It just means respecting the principles behind a good relationship: dedication and gratitude.
3. The little things no longer exist
You practically don't share anything anymore. Not because you don't want to, but because of something that is more important to the other than you. He no longer has an interest in making you feel special, nor in keeping the flame of love alive.
4. It doesn't care about you
You will likely feel this person closer to you in good luck rather than bad. However, he may not be close to you even in the first case. What other clues do you need to understand that things are not going well?
It's not worth moving mountains for someone who wouldn't move a stone for you. The time has come to start giving absences to those who do not value you. Free yourself and free your emotions ...
