Last update: 30 March, 2018
It seems that nowadays we play not to show what we like, not to throw ourselves for fear of rejection, to wait for the other to tell us what he feels and then tell us accordingly. It pretends not to give weight to who is by our side, we live on tiptoe fearful of deepening. It seems to be in fashion not to say what it feels like.
It scares us to have to show our soul, to have to undress so that others see who we really are. It terrifies us to explain our fears and shake our souls; let us fall for someone to catch us. We are so afraid to go beyond the surface of everything around us, because we prefer to remain silent and shield ourselves with an armor.
It seems to go out of style not to say I love you. How many times have we said this today? How many people do we really want? Certainly many more than those to which we have told today. Not saying what you feel does not protect you from anything, it just closes your mouth, but it does not diminish your feelings.
Not saying what you feel is not the right attitude, because it distances you from loved ones and prevents you from showing what you really feel and towards whom. Saying what we feel should never go out of style.
Don't say what you feel out of fear
The fear of expressing ourselves, of releasing our deepest feelings is a defense mechanism. A way to protect ourselves from disappointment, from a sense of abandonment and, ultimately, from feeling vulnerable.
It is normal for us to find it difficult to say I love you when we start a relationship or that we are happy with it and hope it will last forever. Likewise, it is normal to appreciate the love that our loved ones give us. Sometimes we don't put it out because we believe others already know, but what's wrong with expressing our feelings?
What we don't say gets stuck inside us and forms a knot that, at times, hurts. What we don't say haunts us and oppresses us because it makes us prisoners of ourselves, as it distances us from the people we love and disconnects us from our emotions.
That it has gone out of fashion, that now relationships are the most popular in which love is not shown as we would like, those in which we are convinced that everyone knows everything without having to speak. Let's try to say it and prove it, to show what we have inside, to strip our soul. Let's take off that armor. Let's open up without defenses to show others what we have inside.
Maybe tomorrow will already be too late
Why not say what it feels like? What are we waiting to tell the other that we love him? What are we waiting for to throw ourselves and see what happens? Rejection is always better than eternal doubt about what would happen. Showing what we feel does not make us worse, nor weak, nor ignorant ... quite the contrary. It makes us free, authentic and sincere because we show ourselves as we are, we let others see our true essence.
We don't have to wait for tomorrow, we don't have to let time pass. We do not encourage others to come forward and anticipate us. Let's just tell them. We express what our heart feels and show everything we carry within it. The trend of not saying what you feel ends when the person decides to do it. Let's not forget it.
We have to say what we feel and feel what we say, the connection is bidirectional; in other words, it does not end in either of the two extremes. We try to show ourselves and free ourselves. We release what burns, that invades us and that wants to get out. Let's try to say what we feel and experience; calm will take hold of us once fear is overcome, once we reach the goal of being just as we are and how we feel ...
