Trying to be the perfect person is physically, emotionally and psychologically tired.
Last update: February 10, 2022
Wanting to achieve perfection can be an infinite and impossible task. When the ideals we set ourselves are too high, it is more difficult to achieve them.
This undoubtedly presupposes an emotional and psychological exhaustion, because the struggle is with oneself, feelings of guilt appear for not being able to be "excellent" in every situation.
In the pursuit of so-called perfection it is necessary to mold oneself on the basis of what we deem "desirable" for ourselves, that is to be the most loved, someone who never fails, who obtains the highest qualifications, who always does everything better than others, etc. Just thinking about it seems tiring.
Trying to be the perfect person for parents, partners, teachers, boss, friends, and even society physically, emotionally and psychologically tired. In many cases, it is necessary to get rid of one's own desires in order to adjust to what others expect.
Always wear a smiling face mask
This is why in an effort to be perfect, we put aside feelings or desires. When we wear a mask with a smile, but the shine does not go further, when everything is a routine, we have to control ourselves and all this causes different imbalances.
People who always want to achieve perfection are rigid on various levels. As for the body, it is tense because the tension "settles" in the muscles and does not allow them to move properly.
On a cognitive level, thinking is only black or white, with no intermediate grays with which to observe events. On an emotional level, feelings cannot be considered perfect, which is why they are repressed. The person who seeks perfection never says what he feels or what really happens to him.
Rigidity also shows itself when making decisions, as choosing between right and wrong is a catastrophe for fear of "making mistakes" (a word that is never used by a perfectionist).
There can be many problems and doubts in choosing a path, however simple it may seem. Wanting to reach the highest level of perfection comes at a very high cost, so a little mistake can ruin everything.
The contraindications of perfection
People who continually strive for perfection have trouble maintaining a stable partner or having a good time in company. It is difficult for that individual to get carried away by emotions or spontaneity.
Love makes him feel vulnerable because he is more exposed and this disarms his self-imposed rigidity. The other person may also see that he is not so "perfect". It can also happen that you become the other person's ideal role model.
In the workplace, perfection means not knowing the limit in what you do. You focus so much on the details that it takes a long time to complete a task, you are so focused on the "micro" that you leave aside the "macro" or the general.
Wanting to be extremely perfect at work is also a risk, as things are not going well and productivity can even decrease. Although the result may be better, the processing time is not profitable.
All of this causes the feeling of a lack of self-fulfillment and of little personal worth. If you aspire to be perfect in every single area of ​​life, we fight against the essence of the human being. Not being able to achieve that ideal, guilt and depression appear.
Conclusions
The secret is knowing that we were not born to be perfect, but real, with real emotions, mistakes, forgetfulness and neglect. No one can be perfect in everything he does, but he tries to be the best he can in certain aspects.
Letting go of the stiffness, being "lighter" and being aware that you learn from mistakes helps you be happier.
