Last update: 09 March, 2017
The principle of everything is to accept reality for what it is. Life flows constantly and, in its flow, it leaves us infinite experiences that constitute our knowledge. It refers to ourselves, to others and to everything around us. Experiences can be stimulating, fun and transcendental and this gives an extra touch of wisdom to our existence.
There are also painful experiences, because from the beginning life is also made up of deficiencies, frustrations and impossibilities. When we do not accept this data, fears, mistrust and pessimism awaken in us, and we end up blaming ourselves for it. If you have come this far, it is imperative that you find a way to reconcile with yourself.
"No man can feel comfortable without giving himself his personal approval."
(Mark Twain)
One of the most widespread and effective therapeutic resources is to observe ourselves with greater indulgence. It is not easy, but it is important to learn to accept our limitations and our individual traits. We don't have to be too hard on ourselves or even start a relentless fight against our personality by considering it totally horrible.
The principle of everything: look in the mirror
It is likely that, when we stand in front of the mirror, we do not like what we see, or at least most of what we see. We may have a tendency to criticize ourselves severely and relentlessly.
Often we don't even look at ourselves, but we compare ourselves to a mental ideal. For this reason, it is important to learn to observe ourselves carefully and, why not, with affection. A good idea is to get to know each other and recognize our physical image; it is unique in the world and cannot be compared to anything.
Another possibility is to look in the mirror from our inner world. There are qualities and limitations in it as in any other human being. We will be able to accept ourselves when we understand that everyone, absolutely everyone, is characterized by imperfection.
If we can't accept ourselves, we won't be able to accept others. A distinctive trait of those who accept and value themselves is their ability to appreciate others. On the other hand, those who live with a relentless inner battle transmit this conflict to others as well.
You don't need to travel to the Himalayas and enter a state of absolute concentration and silence to look within. To find ourselves, only two things are needed: wanting it and getting lost. To accept and love us, we must first know ourselves and then recognize ourselves with goodness and understanding.
Learn to forgive yourself
Sometimes we fail to accept ourselves because we are filled with guilt. We do not accept a defect or a limitation as a reality common to anyone and, therefore, we self-flagellate ourselves and transform errors into crosses that we carry on our shoulders forever. We can't forgive ourselves for mistakes and behave as if we are our own enemies.
Inside every human being there are doubts about himself. For this reason, it is very important to learn to identify how we relate to our thoughts. It is important to identify self-destructive lines of thought. Overcoming the negative perception of ourselves frees us from a prison.
It doesn't matter what degree of perfection you want to achieve. Human nature, wonderful as it is, is imperfect. And perhaps this is precisely the most beautiful aspect, because it will lead us to try to be better individuals in everyday life.
Likewise, recognizing our limitations is an important step towards maturity and wisdom and, above all, it constitutes a direct experience that everyone lives differently.
Honesty with our feelings
When we act against our feelings, our body expresses itself: in fact, we can transform ourselves into the disease of ourselves.
So we not only stagnate, but we disconnect from the equilibrium of the universe. Many of the diseases you suffer from have an emotional origin and almost all of them are related to self-acceptance and self-love.
As contradictory as it may seem, sometimes we fail to accept ourselves because we are incredibly vain. Some people call this characteristic "narcissism". We are not interested in being ourselves, but in being superior to others; that is why we cannot accept our mistakes or failures. We point the finger at each other and emotionally abuse each other.
You must understand that mistakes do not lead to failure, but to experience. The real mistake is to keep complaining and feeling sorry for committing a foul. There are always ways to remedy. All this is part of an evolutionary consciousness that must open up to new forms of evaluation and resolution of its limits. The principle of everything is to reconcile with yourself and give yourself the opportunity to appreciate the person you are.
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