Respecting your partner means accepting him. Do not try to change or shape it according to your needs.
Last update: April 13, 2022
Theoretically, we all agree that respect in a relationship is essential. In our reports, however, we don't notice some behaviors that can be highly harmful.
Perhaps because attachment to the partner prevents us from seeing reality or perhaps because we have not paused to reflect on what it means to have respect for another person. In any case, we are often victims or perpetrators of actions that show a lack of respect for the person with whom we share our life.
We invite you to reflect and understand the consequences of this attitude in everyday life. We also remind you that without respect there is no love, or rather, there is no healthy love.
What does respect imply in a couple relationship?
I respect you as a human being
This is the most basic assumption that must be present in all our social interactions. It means addressing other people with education considering that every human being deserves our respect.
Typically, none of us yell, insult, attack co-workers or a shop assistant. Yet, within the couple, we often give ourselves the license to adopt these behaviors.
Overconfidence never justifies the use of physical or verbal violence. Under no circumstances is it permissible to raise one's voice or humiliate another person. We must not fall into the error of considering these behaviors normal, as if they were part of the dynamics of couple relationships. Doing so is a lack of respect.
Respect for the partner's personality
A good relationship is not based on two people being the same. A couple is made up of two individuals who understand and respect their differences. Many people, after some time together, tend to want to change their partner's tastes, opinions or ways of being. And they do it without noticing that by doing so they do not respect its essence.
When you met your partner, you fell in love with the very characteristics that make him unique. So why do you want me to change now? Each of us has the right to have their own preferences, thoughts, hobbies and so also when having a relationship with another person.
The goal is not symbiosis, and it is not necessary to merge into a single being without differences. It is much healthier, and enriches us more, to accept the partner for who they are and to share and learn from each other.
Respect the partner's emotions
One of the aspects that we neglect most frequently. When we are in a relationship with another person, we take responsibility and commitment to care for their emotions.
Each of us is responsible for our own happiness and well-being. However, if we bond with another person, we must learn to understand and respect his way of seeing and feeling things.
Within the couple, one partner may be more sensitive than the other. One may be more confrontational and the other more inclined to avoid conflict. There are those who are more inclined to dialogue and those who need to reflect on their own. If you don't respect your partner, these differences can cause problems and quarrels within the couple.
Both members of the couple must work together to find commonalities. The person most inclined to dialogue must understand that after an argument the other may feel the need to be alone. Likewise, the cold or shy person must understand that dialogue is fundamental.
In any case, one must learn to accept the other. In times of crisis it is essential to understand the partner's emotions and to be empathetic.
Accepting loved ones to a partner to ensure respect in a relationship
Finally, those who try to isolate us from our loved ones lack respect. Family and friends are an important part of our identity. They offer us support, support, understanding and make us feel good. The partner, therefore, must respect them and respect the relationship we have with them.
They don't need to like each other or get along on everything; we have no control over this. The important thing is that there is respect on both sides.
A partner who insults and criticizes our loved ones or who tries to distance us from them is dangerous. It is therefore necessary to make an effort to accept and appreciate the people who are important to our partner.
