Find out what it means to be a sexual narcissist. Identify who might be and find out his modus operandi to avoid falling into his traps.
Last update: February 06, 2019
Have you ever felt used sexually by a partner? Does he only look for you when to have sex? Does he only care about her pleasure, ignoring yours and your feelings? If you have experienced similar situations, pay attention to this information regarding sexual narcissism.
Sexual narcissism shares many aspects with narcissistic personality disorder. In addition, it is characterized by the following aspects:
- Sexual self-centeredness (the pursuit of one's own pleasure).
- Lack of empathy (not putting yourself in the other person's shoes, not caring about their physical or emotional needs).
- You need control and domination over the other.
- Desire for non-binding relationships.
- Sense of superiority.
- Extreme concern for one's physical image.
Sexual narcissism
People with a high degree of sexual narcissism they are often very proficient in the art of seduction. Generally they are endowed with a good physical appearance, dialectical skills and apparently they are attentive and affectionate. Especially with those who don't know them very well.
Another feature of sexual narcissism is that initially the person can be very attractive. In this way, her looks, her self-confidence and her determined actions can please others. Especially those who are more dependent or with low self-esteem.
We now know that sexual narcissists show a false sense of competence or self-worth. Being so focused on yourself makes it impossible to think about others. So, they don't put themselves in someone else's shoes, they can be very numb and lack empathy.
The other side of sexual narcissism
When someone falls into the clutches of a sexual narcissist, it seems like everything is fine at first. We laugh, joke and have a good time together. However, over time the victim will find that things are not going well at all. Suddenly he will discover the dark side of sexual narcissism.
With time the seducer begins to leave an ever greater sense of emptiness. As for sexual encounters, they only happen when this person wishes and in the way they want. What's more, she doesn't care about her partner's sexual needs in the slightest. In this way, what was previously passion is now suffering. Summing up, sexual relations lead are always humiliating.
At this point you may blame the sexual narcissist's attitude, but he will never acknowledge his mistakes or lack of empathy. On the contrary, he could come to defend himself with phrases such as:
- The problem is that you are too demanding.
- This has never happened to me before.
- My ex has always told me that I am the best.
- Perhaps it is because of certain physical problems that you are unable to orgasm.
Will always blame others, he will never take responsibility and will never accept the possibility of being wrong. Sexual narcissists have no interest in satisfying their partner.
Sex becomes a punishment
Sex is a dangerous element in a relationship with a sexual narcissist, who uses it as if it were a weapon. So, if he wants to punish his partner for any reason, he can do it through sexuality.
So i sexual intercourse often depends on the conditions imposed by the sexual narcissist. What's more, she will avoid maintaining a solid bond with her partner to emotionally protect herself from a possible breakup or abandonment. Sexual intercourse will be the axis around which everything will revolve. This intimacy, however, will not be a source of satisfaction.
Sexual differences
The manifestations of sexual narcissism are different between men and women:
- The sexual narcissistic woman usually chooses a partner who admires her. He will see the partner as more or less attractive according to the admiration he awakens in him. Plus, she'll be inclined to punish him with a lack of sex. Sexual intercourse will depend a lot on how much the partner submits to her needs.
- The sexual narcissistic man is used to being indifferent to his partner's sexual satisfaction. In addition, he may be inclined to take advantage of it physically.
Conclusions
Sexual narcissists are unlikely to bring anything meaningful to others. Furthermore, they will have a tendency to feed on what the people around them produce. They are unlikely to participate in a dialogue of a critical nature whose core is their conduct. Ultimately, they will hardly see their worldview as wrong.
