Last update: April 09, 2020
We all need someone to take care of us, but that doesn't mean we have to depend on others to stay healthy. It is simply a matter of realizing and accepting that when we are reaching the limit of endurance, when we have hit rock bottom or when things seem to be going too badly, we need someone to remind us who we are or who we can be.
People able to remind us that we are more than the result of circumstances, facts and errors that follow one another. They act as guardian angels and give us wings to fly over the wrecks of our shattered world. And when we fly too high and risk getting burned by the sun of our own success, they can turn into the voice of our conscience, our talking cricket. They are a pillar, our balance, our ying and our yang.
A friend is that person who tries to pick you up when you have fallen. If you can't get up, he'll lie down next to you to listen to you and let you know you're not alone no matter what.
Someone to take care of us: the meaning of that special person in difficult times
It is not difficult to find someone to be comfortable with. Going out for a drink, going shopping, going to the cinema or having a coffee is never a sacrifice. True friends, however, are the ones who stick around in times when we're anything but good company.
Those moments when we let ourselves go to tears and curse the world. Those afternoons when nothing we do, say or listen to can help us feel better. Those are the moments in which we appreciate their presence, that friendly hand that collects our fragments by putting them together slowly, without us noticing it.
It is those eternal conversations made only of complaints that we know will get us nowhere, but that we need to externalize. It's those laughter in the face of all the absurdities that are happening to us and the fear that things could get even worse. Maybe we don't realize it right away, but they are the one who wants to stop the world when everything seems to go against our will, succeeding through their company made up of criticism, tears and laughter.
That company that can only be summed up in two words: TRUE FRIENDSHIP. The one who wins everything and everything changes. So hard to find and so necessary. True friends are few, but in bad times they are always there.
The value of sincerity in moments when everything seems to be fine
Perhaps the least recognized value of friendship is what it appears when all is well. How much the envy of those who have never loved us comes out, when the pride of success takes hold of us. Those moments in which we believe we are invincible and in which success, albeit momentary, gives us to the head and we get lost in ourselves.
In those moments that true friend will undertake to reveal the harsh reality to us. He will clip the wings of pride and make us go back to trample the floor. Because true friends tell the truth in the face even if it hurts, even in moments when it is not nice to hear it, but it is necessary.
They know that while their words may generate initial rejection in us, it won't take long to recognize the real concern behind them: our well-being. Because they don't say it to hurt us, on the contrary: they do it to relieve us from the pain of falling when we are falling or to give us the energy necessary to give us the push to get back up.
For this, we all need someone to take care of us. Because we ourselves are our greatest enemy when things seem to be too good or too bad. Because we need someone to stop the imbalance that risks leading us, inevitably, to self-destruction. Because no one is perfect, and when we are alone, the projection of our defects seems to be magnified… and because life shared with someone special is a life worth living. From start to finish.
