Last update: May 31, 2016
To develop healthy personal development, one of the fundamental conditions is to take care of the environment around us, of those people who should generate positive emotions and values ​​in our hearts. However, unfortunately, not all of them the individuals around us bring us positive experiences: emotional vampires usually hide among them.
Friends who send us good feelings lead us to want to be with them, since, in shared moments, we do not experience conflicts or tensions. However, it is inevitable to meet during our journey, at least once, opposite people, that is, who tend to undermine our emotional state.
There are many reasons why emotional vampires bring about unpleasant sensations in us. Today we will talk about the 4 personalities of emotional vampires and their main characteristics. In this way, you will be able to discover them and achieve positive personal development in your daily life.
"I prefer to have few allies rather than bad company, but they must know how to stay and leave properly"
(Friedrich Nietzsche)
How are relationships with emotional vampires?
There are two concepts characteristic of the typical attitude of emotional vampires. One is time, since, in order to get close to the person they want to bond with, they need perseverance to gain their trust. When they get his sympathy, they begin to implement the second concept: that of proximity. They begin to take advantage of each other's sensitive points and use them for personal gain.
We cannot enjoy good existential quality if there is an emotional vampire in our inner circle. It can be a friend, a family member, or even our partner. It is evident that, the more trust and closeness there is in a relationship with an emotional vampire, the more difficult it becomes to overcome and fight the negative effects that these can cause in us.
The negative personality
The main purpose of the emotional vampire with a negative personality is to make others feel inferior. For this, he will interpret in a negative way everything that has to do with you, constantly establishing barriers and problems. A typical phrase of her is "you don't know how to do things well". He is also opposed to all your personal opinions, even if he is aware that he is wrong.
The most serious drawback is that, if you question the actions of an emotional vampire with a negative personality, he will certainly justify himself by saying that "he only wants the best for you". After some time with this person, you will realize that he only expresses himself through negative criticism.
The victim personality
The emotional vampire with a victim personality never stops complaining about all the negative things that happen in his daily life. The vocabulary of emotional vampires and their way of expressing themselves are built on the basis of constant protests and unjustified fears. Even if things develop positively, there is always something negative to be able to comment on. This is how the emotional vampire fabricates his reasons for complaining and playing the victim with you.
A typical trait to consider when talking to a victim victim is that it is difficult to find healthy emotional support in them. as he will give more and more importance to his world full of problems. Furthermore, he will not waste his time listening to you and analyzing your dilemma, much less offering you his unconditional help in case you need it.
The non-empathic personality
When we talk about emotional vampires, we are also talking about the state of "non-empathy". Empathy is an essential component of interpersonal intelligence. The term was founded by Howard Gardner and refers to the cognitive ability to understand someone else's emotional universe.
In his relationships, the vampire personality proves to have no sense of empathy due to his selfish gestures; he does not think about the fact that he can generate malaise or other negative feelings in his companions. Emotional vampires never put themselves in other people's shoes, they adopt an attitude that eliminates optimism from their life.
The melancholy and violent personality
As we told you before, the actions and gestures of emotional vampires are based on a vision of the world in the name of the "glass half empty"; every situation is seen from its less positive side. These people are always reluctant towards new alternatives, they tend to be difficult to convince as they always try to convey to others their vital belief, which is "life is not worth it".
Since they enjoy little empathy, they do not hesitate to adopt violent gestures for no apparent reason. The emotional states on which they build their daily life are anger, anger and pride.
