Last update: February 18, 2022
A couple relationship is a commitment between two people who decide to plan their life together. It is essential that the couple build a series of solid and robust pillars, on which to rest all common projects. The concrete of these pillars is represented by negotiation and agreement and the bricks are represented by love, respect and understanding.
Why does a couple relationship fail?
Often, couple relationships are wrecked because the pillars are missing; therefore, the couple does not have a base that gives them stability and security.
The failure is due to the lack of agreement between the two companions, who have not been able to establish their pillars and, therefore, they lack a structure to hold them together, a foundation to support them.
When to establish the pillars of the couple?
It is good establish the pillars of the couple at the beginning of the relationship, when people are still getting to know each other. In that moment, dialogue is essential, as are mutual knowledge and the willingness to reach agreements so that both are satisfied.
When to review the pillars of the couple?
The pillars of torque are like the wheels of a truck: if there is any problem, it is good to review it all over again, because it means that harmony is in danger.
Relationships often continue for some time despite the absence of a pillar. This leads to a gradual deterioration and, then, to the final breakup, which is terribly painful due to the fact that problems have gradually added to the couple.
What are the 9 fundamental pillars of a couple relationship?
Today we will talk about the 9 main pillars of couples, although the number can vary from relationship to relationship. However, establishing at least the ones presented below is essential for the couple's relationship to be happy and healthy.
Love is a fundamental pillar, as are all others. To establish this, it is essential that there is mutual feeling between the two partners. In order for this pillar to remain strong and solid, it is good to know that the manifestations of love vary during the different stages of the relationship, but the feeling is strengthened if the other pillars remain stable.
Communication is the channel through which the couple resolves their discrepancies and grows by making decisions together, making an agreement.
It is good to establish exclusive moments for communication as a couple, to share thoughts and decide in harmony. This pillar is essential for the others to remain intact as well. The comunication it involves listening and expressing feelings, fundamental acts to get to know each other thoroughly and to strengthen the confidence between the two partners.
- Respect
Respect between the two companions is typical of couples who maintain themselves over time, who grow and thrive happily.
Respecting the other means growing together, one step at a time, without impositions, without expectations, without emotional dependence and without aggression. When there is respect, then love and communication can be adequate.
Each person has their own scale of values. When we start a relationship, we must build a common scale of values, which can be different from the individual scale or share some values.
In any case, the values ​​of the couple are those to be used to relate to others and to build a common project.
For all couples, the time has come reflect on a life together.
If one of the two does not want this to happen, it is good that it is an idea shared by both, so that there is security in the trajectory of the relationship.
When you decide to move in together, it is necessary to agree on the couple's economy, on the way of living together, on the division of domestic tasks, on the organization of space, etc.
You must never ever stop being yourself. For this purpose, you must clearly express your identity, your tastes, your opinions, your ideology, your personal values, your social relationships, etc.
The couple must be a safe place to be yourself. It is good to share time with your partner, but also to keep your spaces and passions.
In healthy couple relationships, personal freedom continues to exist. Each of the two must voluntarily choose to continue the relationship. Then, the pillars must be established together, but, in that case, the person does not lose freedom, they simply gain a presence with which to share it.
The couple grows when they cultivate common plans and hopes. An example is the decision to start a family.
When the couple decides to undertake projects together and to fight for them, the two partners understand that unity is strength and that they go much further together than separated. Walking towards a single goal may not be easy, but it gives a lot of satisfaction to the couple if the other pillars are firm and safe.
Commitment and responsibility do not take away freedom, but they increase courage, because they force you to fight for the dreams of life.
Fidelity is an agreement and a way of living sexual and emotional relationships. It is up to the couple to choose how to treat this pillar, because it is essential that there is the consent of both; security and trust must be total.
