To protect our relationships, affection is not enough. The feeling that does not turn into action is useless, does not arrive and does not nourish. We need courageous actions and committed hearts, able to understand that to love means to protect and also to remedy one's mistakes.
Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: 15 November 2022
Letting go, knowing how to close chapters, distance yourself from certain people and situations, all this requires courage. The courage to protect, love, run for cover and hold on to those you love.
It is not an easy task, but the mechanisms of the heart do not allow for improvisations. Well thought out actions are necessary in order to always give the best of us.
An old proverb says that people stumble more often with their tongue than with their feet. And it is a great truth: precisely in this way we end up losing those we love, and we do it using inappropriate language and with words never spoken, suffocated by pride or by an unacceptable carelessness.
Protecting relationships is paramount to happiness, but no one is an expert on the subject and very often we make clumsy mistakes that we regret for life.
Loving means protecting and protecting means knowing how to be present with actions, intentions, emotions and behaviors. All of this undoubtedly needs large doses of emotional intelligence and also empathy.
The courage to protect, to love… It is not enough to try, you have to prove it
In one of his fables, Aesop said that we are all courageous from the right distance. It is that friend who stops by to lend a hand in time of need. It is that partner who is able to overcome all fears and insecurities to indulge himself fully and boldly.
That said, it's clear we don't need heroes. On the subject of affection we do not want or need to be saved, but we expect them to try, that determination and courage are founded in order to demonstrate, protect, love, run for cover ...
We feel the desire to have them by our side people who understand that affection must build shelter every day in which to feel loved and appreciated.
Courage takes many forms, but only one is worth more than the others
Courage has many facets. There is that of those who finally overcome their fears and manage to get out of their comfort zone to prove what it is worth and to seek its place in the world. There is that of people who set aside a situation that hindered their well-being in order to regain control of their life and identity. On the other hand, we find courageous people in many professions. Those who risk their lives to save others, for example.
Although courage expresses itself in an infinite number of ways, its nature is only one: it comes from love and support, not from the pure selfishness of those in search of fame, gratitude or any other type of external reinforcement. .
Courageous are those who do not allow themselves to be intimidated by barriers to help others. Courageous are those who act driven by their values, daring to transform their reality to achieve well-being. Because it's good to have it clear, love passes through affection, protection, the ability to remedy.
Taking care of the relationship with ourselves, of that bond we have with our being, is the only way to always be able to give the best to those around us.
The courage to protect the relationships we care about
Our presence is a powerful tool for helping others. Few actions leave their mark like showing that person in front of us that we really are there. That time stops when we are together and that nothing matters more than her at that precise moment.
What happens in the shared present moment is important for us and for this we give all of ourselves; for this we try to make ourselves heard with all our strength. Being there for the other with our presence, our emotions, our words and our will is the basis of human relationships. We must make sense of that moment through the gaze, the protective instinct and above all by communicating.
The courage to know how to appreciate what you love
When we value what we have, the world goes into a quiet state. We want nothing else and we lack nothing because all our gaps have been filled with well-being, gratitude and affection.
At the very moment in which we become aware of the fullness of our life and that happiness is limited to the most trivial and at the same time most precious actions.
Love, protect, remedy… This is what the sense of satisfaction is made of in the universe of relationships and this is a demonstration of courage put in place by those who are satisfied with their emotional relationships.
Supporting those we love, having the courage to always protect from every word we say, from every decision, and to make up for our mistakes, is all part of the path to happiness.
