Last update: February 01, 2015
Couple relationships require a lot of effort on the part of both people who form it. Today I want to talk to you about the four elements that can end what seemed to be the best relationships.
criticism
Criticisms are very common in couples, in fact it can be said that they are necessary to talk about the aspects that affect us or that annoy us and reach an agreement to resolve the situation. However, the criticisms that kill a relationship are those that are made with the aim of hurting the partner's feelings, that is, destructive criticisms.
This type of criticism is aimed at making the partner feel guilty for trying to get what you want, for example "You are late because you don't worry about me". This situation can cause the victim to have inferiority complexes and can permanently end love in the relationship.
Contempt
Contempt in a couple can manifest itself in different ways: sarcasm, nasty nicknames, facial expressions and gestures, or indifference. Each of these demonstrations will end up creating a lack of trust and security on the part of the victim, which inevitably usually leads to separation and / or divorce.
Stay on the defensive
A person who is always on the defensive is one who does not take responsibility for his mistakes and who always looks for an excuse to justify himself. Although this is a common attitude in many people, when one of the couple stops taking on their responsibilities completely, it can be activated at the end of the relationship.
This is due to the fact that the person who is on the defensive will always blame the partner by making them feel the weight of the whole relationship fall on their shoulders. This can cause the total cancellation of love and the pursuit of divorce.
Look for a pretext
When one of the earlier points occurs, it is common for the victim to feel the need to build an emotional wall to protect themselves. This wall will be made up of excuses and pretexts that try to minimize communication to avoid continuing to get hurt. When an apology is presented there is still a chance to save the relationship through good communication that leads to problem resolution. However, if this situation is allowed to continue, the divorce will not be long in coming.
The couple relationship: compromise between two
It is quite clear that the reason these four elements arise is because one of the two members of the couple stops showing interest and immersing themselves in the relationship. This causes the other person to try to resolve the situation, but if there are no apparent changes he will eventually give up and stop fighting.
