Last update: 12 November 2015
Emotional language is a way of expressing feelings and emotions, as well as being a channel of connection with the other.
On many occasions, to understand each other in interpersonal relationships, an expression of affection, emotional, feeling or, in other words, showing what we have inside is enough.
The world of affections
Affects are feelings expressed in words, but also in non-verbal language. Through words and gestures, affections are always accompanied by emotions, those emotions that give value to affectionate words.
We can define "affection" all those expressions that show the other how we feel when we are together, but also far away, or the desires we have towards him / her.
And it is precisely the expression of affection that establishes the character of the relationship, its depth and the importance it has for both people involved.
The emotional relationships
No doubt we have not been taught to communicate in this way, and we often do not make use of this emotional communication because we do not consider it important, even if, in reality, it is fundamental for human relationships.
Using loving words in relationships charges them with feeling, soul, desire, content and meaning, since any other type of communication, however interesting, does not affect us emotionally.
The difficulty of expressing affection
When we feel something for someone, we let them know, we try to make the relationship different and special.
However, we find it difficult, strange, ridiculous and even unusual to do so, as often they taught us not to show what we “have inside” and to hide our feelings. We are told it is a sign of weakness and suffering.
It is, therefore, a difficulty based on a misconception of "emotional hardness" and the lack of "emotional education", through which we should have been taught to express affection and manage our emotions.
The pain of not expressing yourself
Precisely due to the fact that we have not been taught and the wrong beliefs, we usually show ourselves strong, numb and ignore our feelings because we think that, in this way, we will expose ourselves less to the pain and suffering it can cause us.
Despite this, the human reality is very different, since pain is exactly what we feel when we don't express what we feel or when it is not communicated to us.
The power of loving words
If we were taught to use loving words, from childhood we would know how powerful they are, both by hearing them and by saying them. They have the power to show our inner self and establish a link with the other's inner self.
If we close our eyes and hear a:
- "I love you"
- "I love you"
- "I feel special when I'm with you"
- "I'm happy next to you"
- "You are the most special person I know"
- "I'm fine when you listen to me"
- "I feel important when I listen to you"
- "I'm glad to have known you"
- "I'm at peace when I'm next to you"
- "I want to continue to be next to you"
- "I always want to be able to count on you"
- "I want the best for you"
- "I want to hug you"
- "I would like to know you better"
- "I feel loved by you"
- "I feel pampered"
Then we will feel much better ...
Perhaps some loving words seem more familiar to you than others, even if they made you feel differently about the person to whom you addressed them or who said them to you.
The healing power
The power of affectionate words lies in their high emotional content, which is transmitted and excites those who receive it, making those who share it feel the emotion expressed at the same time. And that's where the healing power comes from.
When we express our affection, we release emotions which, at times, oppress or block those who do not express them.
After hearing or saying loving words, we will feel relieved and free from pain or suffering locked up in the emotions themselves.
Affectionate words heal and unite those who use them, releasing the painful emotions and feelings that were at the root of silent suffering.
