Last update: February 04, 2015
There are things in our life that when they happen, we wish they would never happen again. At the precise moment in which we are told "I don't love you as before" "I don't have the same feelings for you anymore" "I fell in love with another person", we feel like a boulder of thousands of kilos of pain falling on our heart. After that, we begin to lose interest in our friends, work, family, in general we lose interest in the whole world. And the worst part is that we think we will never get through that moment. However, there is nothing more wrong.
Have many of you ever felt so true? Even those who wrote this article have felt this way on more than one occasion (and it will happen other times). However, when we only feel pain and desolation, we must take advantage of it to know ourselves better, learn to be alone and improve ourselves as people. I realized this when one day my mother said to me: "My daughter, I see you improved, you are more affectionate with me and more interested in the things that happen in life". Just then I realized that I was getting through my dark period. And the best thing was to realize that I was looking forward, with the awareness that life had many other wonderful moments in store for me, all to be experienced.
The process of shooting after separation
You heard right, it is indifferent that they encourage you, that you meet new men / women after breaking up with your partner, since, until you have passed the separation, the process will be longer and more painful. In fact, in relationships, the saying "nail drives nail" does not apply. At least not right away.
This recovery process after the breakup will be very difficult. In the beginning, when someone leaves us, the first thing we try to do is try to get back together. We feel guilty and believe we have done something wrong, we have not gone into the details enough, or we have not said "I love you" enough. However, remember: this is just a thought created by our mind which, being a rogue, plays tricks on us. Unfortunately, in these cases, time is the only medicine for this pain.
After this first stage, comes that of acceptance. We think ”Now she doesn't love me anymore. What can I do about it? I will certainly find someone else ”. From a certain point of view it is good to think so, but be careful. Many people focus too much on this and begin to think that they can maintain friendships with their old partner. After seeing the old partner with another person, the breakdown as spiritual as it is sentimental can be colossal. This stage can be really long, painful and boring. This is the time when you have to dedicate yourself to yourself, to recover your friendships and to form yourself both personally and culturally.
When you have succeeded in reaching this goal, the arduous and painful journey will already be more than overcome. Sometimes you will think back to your ex boyfriend / girlfriend, but perhaps in a melancholy way, remembering all the good times we spent together. And if you keep thinking that you will never get over the trauma, ask yourself "When I was alone was I a normal person who breathed, ate, laughed without needing to have someone by my side?" It happened to me and it certainly happened to you too. Remember that there is no better company than yourself.
