Last update: Augusts 28, 2015
There is a Cuban song that says: “so many centuries, so many worlds, so much space… and to meet”.
That's right: sometimes, chance creates wonderful opportunities that allow us to know those soul mates, those perfect beings, who give new paths to our life and give us light. They are souls who find themselves existing at the same moment as we, with whom we share a short fragment of time; we spend unforgettable months or years, but then everything collapses like a sand castle blown away by the wind.
It seemed to you the perfect partner, but, due to different circumstances, nothing could be realized. You met on the same track in your life, but you had tickets to different destinations. Sometimes, love is not enough to maintain a relationship, although that soul encountered is a reflection of yours. It happens that there are irreconcilable complications or physical and emotional costs that are too high to bear. There are impossible loves that make us live perfect fragments of time, fleeting and intense, but which, from the beginning, have engraved the expiration date.
The importance of taking risks and experimenting in life
A life without risks and decisions is a life not lived. It is possible that you know from the beginning that certain experiences can involve a high cost, that you are aware that getting out of the comfort zone, that is, from your safe nest, it will make you experience the uncertainty of “not knowing what will happen".
Perhaps you are aware that you will run the risk of making several mistakes. Taking risks means losing your balance, but with each step we learn to get up from falls and start walking again with more confidence. The same thing happens in our emotional relationships, in which no one has a perfect manual; no one comes into the world teacher of a love without suffering. And for this that it is important to understand the concepts set out here.
Is it true that there are "soul mates"?
It is likely that, reading the title of this article, you will have thought that, if soulmates really exist, they will never go different directions, because the same souls are predestined to be together forever. Be careful not to be mistaken, do not jump into the void without a parachute.
Perfect loves, however, do not exist, they must be cultivated day by day, facing sacrifices and investing time and effort. Furthermore, love is not the only solution to all problems, it is not the only answer to all doubts, nor the only bridge over all emotional voids. There are great loves condemned to experience immense suffering, for many reasons: lack of understanding, selfishness, immaturity, different interests, etc.
Destiny creates wonderful opportunities to meet people who seem perfect; however, this love carries an expiration date right from the start: what we meet is a soul mate with whom to share a set time and therefore enjoy every minute, every second. Nonetheless, always remember that you must be your soul mate yourself; you have to cultivate your self-love every day to keep balancing one step after another.
The importance of taking risks in love
There are times when we know this perfectly well. Something inside us tells us that that relationship will not last, that it will make us suffer, that it will be short and painful. So, do we make a mistake if we risk it? Absolutely not, if we know the limits and are careful to protect our self-esteem.
Love is an adventure that deserves to be lived; if we decide to discard this opportunity, it is very likely that we will regret for the rest of our lives the fact of not having risked, not having walked that track running until we lose our breath, to hug that person.
Nobody knows what will happen next; whether it's a love that lasts a lifetime, whether the ending causes more suffering than happiness, it will be worth it.
Time lived is learning, it is time when you are passionate, laughed and cried. The wounds that will then be created will be healed by everyday life; no doubt, it is more painful to repent of not having risked than to remember a love that ended badly.
This is the book of life and as such we must write it day by day. There is no love without risk, he who does not venture does not live, he who does not strive does not get reward. Even if the relationship with the apparent soul mate won't last, you can rest assured that that love will remain in your memories for the rest of your life.
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