Last update: January 18, 2016
Sadness lurks very easily in our spirit when we let it in. If it finds an ever larger free space, it can even take root in it.
But the perfect context in which it can proliferate is loneliness: when we are alone, we cannot pretend, and we completely submit to its dictates.
“Beware of sadness. It's a vice ”.
(Gustave Flaubert)
This state of sadness can lead others to worry about you, to call you, to encourage you, to find a way to make you feel better. However, with this attitude, they unknowingly reinforce your situation. You isolate yourself in a comfortable bubble of pain, which others try to pop.
Sadness makes you suffer, but, at the same time, it gives you a false feeling of calm, of stillness, of comfort in pain. You feel you don't want to take risks.
Why is sadness so resistant?
It is said that the worst addiction to a substance is that in which the individual does not want anyone to consume it, when he no longer expects to be accompanied or to be in a certain social context that pleases him. It is enough for him to be alone with his substance to find pleasure, so there are no rules or obstacles for consumption to occur at any time of the day.
The same thing happens with sadness: if a person lives alone and does not want to share this loneliness, this state will penetrate his existence without obstacles or parameters. This is, in part, logical: no one wants to be seen sad and downcast.
In this way, we enter a dynamic of isolation which, if prolonged, can lead to depression and pain can turn into a perennial shadow.
How to fight sadness?
In order not to end up in these conditions, it is good that sadness stops weighing on your shoulders. You have to make things difficult for her:
- First of all, get away from the dramas and the people who cause them.
- Start creating pleasant situations in your life with new people.
- It is important that you relax, so you need to be able to tell a true friend from a fake one whose company would hurt you right now.
- Do things you enjoy: read, listen to music, play sports, do manual jobs, etc. None of these activities are a waste of time, especially when you think about how much you could lose if your sadness became chronic.
- If necessary, let off steam, do not be ashamed. Go out and try to be in company, even if you don't feel like it: you will see that the desire will then come by itself.
- Don't close the doors to life. Analyze the possibility of change, also think about how to start from scratch without hurting others.
In short, declare war on sadness!
Knowing how to give space to sadness without it consuming you
In the course of life, you will surely have to experience sad moments, it is inevitable. Allow yourself to cry and let off steam. Be aware that you can suffer a breakdown at any time and that you need solitude to experience it.
But it is good that you know that loneliness will not abandon you if you do not put limits on it and you will not undertake to get out of it: in this case, the intentions are not so much important as the gestures you really put into practice to leave it behind.
So cry. Cry without witnesses, but don't forget that this condition must always have a limited duration: these are feelings that you must not repress, but neither should you allow them to lurk in your soul.
Sadness easily settles in lonely souls. There, in fact, it can proliferate undisturbed and will not go away if you do not remedy it.
