Last update: 08 November 2016
For sure, in your life you will have felt frustrated because someone with great potential was not giving the best of themselves. Perhaps some disappointment has prompted you to ask yourself if it is enough to give the best of yourself to bring out the best in someone else.
Certainly when it comes to interpersonal relationships, even if they cannot always be labeled, all the positive factors help. Maybe we don't always manage to make the relationship the way we want it to, because the last word is up to the other person, but we can certainly get closer to our idea of ​​a good relationship.
Remember that the important thing is that the other always treats us in the best possible way, even if sometimes he cannot give his best, as we would like. Patience in these cases is a great ally, even relationships need to grow and mature in order to shine.
You deserve as much as the others
In relationships with others it is better not to expect the exact fulfillment of our desires, in fact this need could cause the opposite effect. It is not a healthy relationship one in which the people involved feel completely conditioned and in which there is a lack of freedom. Giving your best, however, with flexibility and patience, can be the best invitation that encourages others to do the same.
Isn't it true that in a relationship of friendship, love or even family, we feel more loved when we both commit ourselves? In fact, taking reciprocity into account is good: just as we give the best of ourselves, we must be able to see the positive behaviors of the other.
The balance of a symmetrical relationship helps us develop the best version of ourselves, even in an unconscious way. This means that the other person is also important and that together we make a good team.
Giving your best is a sign of trust
Stephen Covey stated that "if you want to build trust, you have to be trustworthy" and indeed, for others to open up, perhaps we need to be the first to open up in a one-way sense.
Don't be afraid to do it, recognizing your fears and your qualities will also lead others to show you their trust to the point of revealing their strengths and weaknesses. And it is very gratifying that someone considers us worthy of his trust.
In fact, being able to give your best means having enough confidence to know that and inner fears, flaws or darks are not big enough to outshine any other positive aspects. So do not worry, knowing and valuing yourself will give the opportunity to those around you to see all your virtues.
"Trust is a two-way path," he said harshly
"What does that mean?"
“That trust cannot be demanded when it is not granted”.
Dolores Redondo, da Inciso nelle ossa
Everyone will appreciate the fact that you have confidence in yourself and, therefore, will feel comfortable in your company: in our bonds a sort of closed circle is created in which several people move in unison and the edges are smoothed.Giving without interest, receiving with gratitude
We all know the proverb "what is sown is reaped". Have you ever thought of it this way? You may not see results in the short term, but in the long run, giving the best of yourself will be an extra reason for happiness.
In the first place, because giving, offering, always feels good. Secondly, because relationships with others are strengthened. Finally, because others will give themselves honestly and without having to ask them.
Probably, you have experienced this feeling with someone and maybe this person has experienced the same: if you are always demanding and do not recognize what others do to make you feel better, they will find it increasingly difficult to give you everything they can. However, others usually give their best when they see us doing the same.
Discovering what resides in the people we love is almost as good as realizing what exists within us. Reciprocity is the fundamental secret between two people who strive to maintain a strong and healthy bond: a bond that, as Neruda would say, becomes what saves us from life, namely love.
