Last update: Augusts 24, 2015
I look at the sky and try to see you among many stars, I look for your lost image in the shadows. I draw your face in the clouds that I see pass; he travels without a direction and, letting myself be guided by the moon, I ask him: “Where are you?”. And then my chest shakes, giving me the answer with a falling tear that makes me realize again that you are no longer here, but that you remain in my heart.
I like to think that there is a parallel universe in which the souls who have left this world live together. I like to think that new arrivals bring something of those who are no longer there. I like to cling to the idea that there is something or someone close to me, touching me slightly.
It is a way of reliving those who are gone, whom we see in the sky, who illuminate every night of our life. It is like this: we need to feel their presence, even though we know they will never return.
Every person who has left our life is a star in the sky, a star that will never stop shining. Because it is within us that memories remain of what those people meant to us and what they will represent forever.
How to write a story when it's not over yet?
When a person leaves, our life stops, our heart leaps and we become paralyzed. However, if there is a way to start writing our history, it is with tears and with hope.
When someone dies, they don't go away by themselves, they take away a part of your soul, to sew their wings, so they can fly with you.
Abandonment by a loved one teaches us that it is not death that frightens us, but the pain of knowing that, no matter how much we cry and suffer, we will never see her again.
This is scary, very scary. It is a pain that penetrates very deeply and that we neither know nor want to release. Why, after all, it is a method we cling to, at least for the first few months, to keep these people present day by day.
I still need them, I will never stop longing for them
Often, we make the mistake of thinking that, over time, we will stop feeling bad; this can make us feel guilty. Losing a loved one always hurts, let's face it.
There is a long way to go, you have to hit the bottom, you have to cry and feel deep down that something has broken, that someone is gone; making the comparison between a "before" and a depressing "after" in our life is inevitable.
However, even if we never cease to feel the sense of loneliness and pain of the death of a loved one, we can recover our life and our will to live.
In spite of all the pain and sadness, our daily life goes on; we must accept abandonment, understand the meaning of death and that of life.
It is not easy to recover and admit that a part of our life has remained unfinished: the months go by, and we continue to remember, feel and think about everything that is still pending.
Embrace them and be reborn
When life separates you from a loved one, the memory of their smile is the best drive to move forward.
We would give anything to hear them again, to have them with us a few more minutes and tell them everything that distresses us. But it is possible to overcome this moment, you can find a way to live with the suffering and the desire to see them again.
The best way to move forward is by reinventing hugs, turning them into memories and evoking them every day. Our greatest gift will be to add a little joy to our days, making the memory of those people share in our happiness.
Source: “Death and life after death” - Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
