Last update: April 14, 2016
Today I have chosen to devote some more attention to myself, to take care of that inner garden that blooms within me. To be happy, so as not to fall into the trap of others' selfishness, so that my days no longer have dark moments and life reserves for me a shining sun of joy.
We all want to be happy, but in reality we don't always put our own effort into it: taking care of ourselves, listening to ourselves, becoming the protagonists of the show of our life, without hiding behind the scenes, in which happiness only passes from time to time and often forgets to hug us.
You deserve to be happy, you deserve to touch the moon in the darkest nights and to fly above whale-shaped clouds when you feel trapped and anguish invades you. You are the love of your life, and for this you must choose to be the protagonist of your existence. Not just today, but every day of your life.
Nobody has the right to consider yourself selfish just because you know how to say "no" when you need it, because you look for some oxygen and freedom when you feel pressured, because you cut off relationships when someone hurts you. No one should have power over you except yourself, because we all come into this world alone, and we leave the same way. So why not start being happy and offering happiness right away?
Being happy is a life-long adventure
Choosing to be happy is the first step that will bring you closer to your goal: because whoever chooses decides, whoever acts even only through thoughts will eventually be able to materialize those actions in reality, in his daily life.
The art of being happy starts with a simple choice: believing in yourself.
Being happy requires not only a conscious choice, but also the ability to know how to prioritize ourselves and realize that, sometimes, we will have to put our interests first, over other things and situations. It may sound a little radical to you, but it's really about finding a balance between ourselves and others. This is why it is important to always keep some of these guidelines in mind.
Surround yourself with people who bring you light, not suffering
As we told you a little while ago, the secret is in balance. A person must first of all feel good about himself, he must feel that everything he does or stops doing is consistent with his expectations, his identity, his essence.
There are people who make us lose that inner balance: they distance us from our values, they put our integrity at risk, they take away our energies, they manipulate us with their irony or their orders, or they subject us to a fake affection that in reality is just poisonous.
It is important that in life you surround yourself with sincere people, who allow you to always be yourself.
We know well, however, that in the course of our existence we must also relate to figures who are not always in keeping with our values ​​and what we need. THEIn this case, in the case of complicated relationships that are imposed on us, for family or work reasons, for example, what we must do is not to give them any authority in our life. Limit your relationship with them, turn off their influence on you if you find it upsets you and, once again, prioritize yourself.
Dear me, I know you deserve to be treated better, and I promise to do so from now on. I will stop pitying myself, telling me that I cannot or do not deserve certain things ... Dear me, today I challenge you to be happy.
In reality, there are many tricks in which we wrap our ego. Be careful, because those extra layers that prevent him from breathing often come from the environment around us, but other times they come from us.
We must pay attention to these limiting attitudes that make us label our selves with a "I will not make it", "it is not for me", "I will fail for sure", or "it is clear that happiness will never knock on my door" ...
If you build walls with your thoughts and fortresses with your attitude, you will never be able to let the wind of happiness penetrate. Be authentic, be yourself, take care of your inner self and release it.
You must also beware of those external influences that sometimes act by boycotting your self-esteem. Partners who control you, who limit you, who inhibit your personal growth. And we cannot forget the weight of many families, of those authoritarian educational models of parents who build real bubbles that imprison us, preventing their children from maturing and feeling free.
Sometimes to be happy you have to embark on an inner journey that heals many wounds and shortcomings of the past. Once our wounds are covered and our needs met, we can free ourselves from fears and open our eyes and hearts to believe it, to believe that we truly deserve to be happy.
Don't wait for the good times to be happy - be happy and the good times will come by themselves.
Images courtesy of Abigail Dela, Pascal Campion and Devianart Jenny White
