Last update: Augusts 23, 2015
What others think of you is their reality, not yours. They know your name but not your history, they have not worn your clothes, nor walked in your shoes. The only thing that others know about you is what you have told or what they have been able to guess, but they do not know your good or bad side.
It often happens that you don't understand yourself; nevertheless, we do not hesitate to formulate hypotheses about others. In reality, it is impossible to be certain about what others feel, about what they have lived and learned.
For this reason, we shouldn't give weight to what others say about us, because their words are the mere result of an illusory reality, created by their curious mind.
Critical people
There are people who continually give their opinion about you, your life and your decisions, even though no one has asked them.. Usually, these opinions are negative or have the sole purpose of hurting you, belittling you, or embarrassing you.
Typically, these are people with low self-esteem who do not even accept themselves, making it even more difficult for them to accept others. The labels they attach to others are a reflection of their vision of themselves, the projection of their emotional difficulties.
Our path can only be walked by us
Live your life the way you like it
Not in the way others want you to experience it.
Probably, if we could intrude on the body and mind of others, we would not dare to judge. It would be a really interesting trial by fire, capable of revealing our value.
Leaving fantasies aside, we need to focus on appreciating ourselves and stop underestimating ourselves. What others think of us does not give us a price. Just as we shouldn't allow others to tell us how we should dress, we shouldn't let them choose our "emotional wardrobe" either.
If we live based on what others think about us, we lose our individual style and personality. We would be forced to wear a mask and our reflection in the mirror would represent insecurity and lack of self-esteem.
Heal the part injured by criticism
The most unhappy people in the world are those who care too much about what others think.
To heal the emotional wounds caused by criticism, we must first be convinced that we are unique and irreplaceable people; we must abandon the fear of feeling and thinking for ourselves.
It is others who are criticizing and judging, not you. Non-constructive criticism brings with it a great emotional poverty in the depths of the person who pronounces it. Therefore, if the person in question decides not to enrich himself internally, the most convenient thing to do is to be emotionally selfish, because everyone has his own cross to bear.
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Step away from the negativity and reflect on the fact that your life is so much simpler if you don't meddle in the lives of others. Follow these directions:
- As we have already said, giving rise to the judgments of others, we will end up turning into someone we are not. Sacrificing our identity to please others is absolutely insane.
- Are you good mothers? Successful people? Smart? Efficient at work? Do you like it? By worrying about all these things, you will lose a lot of precious energy.
- In reality, others think much less about us than we think. In other words, we tend to feel that we are the center of other people's attention when, in truth, most of the things we do are of no interest to others. Eliminate this fear, as it is largely a mere product of your imagination.
- No matter what you do and how you do it, there will always be someone who will see something bad in it. Try to live and act naturally: if you do things because you really feel like doing them, it will always be the correct choice. You don't have to justify yourself to others, the important thing is that you are sincere and in tune with yourself.
Don't expect others to understand your journey, especially if they have never had to walk your path.
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