Last update: 18 March, 2016
It's over. Real life is not that love movie that everyone is talking about and not even that book that tells of relationships that last forever: eternal love, inseparable friendships, families united until the end ... In real life, love, in all its aspects, is not always enough and saying goodbye is the order of the day.
The difficult thing is to leave when there is no space left for a possible return, but there are only holes and gaps between two or more people. Sometimes saying goodbye is just a law of life. In other words, the complicated aspect of goodbye is not saying "goodbye", but learning to move forward.
Free and let go
We have been told many times that life is like a roller coaster ride: once we get on, we have to adapt to the descents and climbs it entails. However, they also want us to believe that a happy life is one in which everything lasts forever.
And it is in this contradiction that the problem lies. We feel vulnerable when we discover that our life is constantly changing, that happiness is not constant and that sooner or later we are all forced to lose something in order to move forward and win.
People who arrive can also leave, just as when we arrive we can leave. And when they leave or we leave, what remains is what they taught us or what we have taught, for better or for worse: we must let go of what is no longer there, accept it and learn to move forward with what we have. it has remained with us and that makes us what we are.
Anything that involves saying goodbye
Leaving is one of the most difficult moments we face in life sooner or later, as it involves many other things that distance us from ourselves and make us lose. Saying goodbye means freeing something we don't want to free, but we want to stay there.
To say goodbye means to want to say something that we cannot say and that we have never said before, to do what we have not been able to do with others, to embrace those we have not embraced. Ultimately, saying goodbye is living everything that we have not yet experienced and that we will always miss.
Shedding light, even if it goes away
of the night, even if it is
death the sky
which opens and
the ocean is nothing else
than a created abyss
blindly.
White Varela
In the face of this, we are left with the strength, sacrifice and courage that we all have, even if we are not convinced of it. We are all able to look to the future, however gray it may be, and find the courage to face pain, only in this way life will know that we are ready to be happy again..
Learning to say goodbye means growing up
Sometimes we don't even have time to say goodbye: it is the law of life, someone we love has to leave, even if they will continue to be with us. Other times, we say goodbye before we are even aware of it. Once again Jorge Bucay would say: “no one is more inclined to believe himself a bit of a liar than those who want the lie to be certain”.
The proof of goodbye, as we said at the beginning, lies in seeing us happy after saying "goodbye". When this happens, we will have gone through a long process of inner healing, of searching for what we were, want and can be for ourselves.
Saying goodbye really comes when we think back to the past with that person and feel bigger thanks to them.. We grew up because life was beautiful until the moment of farewell, we grew up because they broke us and we managed to rebuild ourselves, we grew up because we realized that life only makes sense when we want to live it.
