Last update: May 11, 2016
Perhaps it may seem that there is an error in the title of the article, that a question mark is missing at the end. However, the intent of this article is not to ask “when do you know that a relationship is over?”, But to tell about some of the feelings we feel when you understand that a relationship has come to an end.
Because, as sad as it may seem, many of us they drag relationships far beyond what is necessary, even knowing that the flame of love has gone out and all that remains are the embers of a bonfire that once burned majestically and happily.
For this reason, we must end a relationship when we know there is nothing left. In honor of what one day was beautiful. Prolonging suffering without reason means only adding fuel to the fire and ruining happy memories once lived by two loving souls.
Why carry on a broken relationship?
Now that's a question and the question is why carry on a broken relationship? Is it really worth it? Are the bonds and reasons that unite so strong that we often feel unable to stop bleeding, even knowing that the love of yesteryear is gone?
“What is my path? Expect you? Forget you? Do what you do, go into the arms of one and then another, sleep today with someone and tomorrow with another? "
-Frida Kahlo-
For the human being, the need to feel protected in his routine is very strong. In this way, we believe ourselves less alone and we know that there will always be someone waiting for us at home.
The men and women of this world are afraid of loneliness, they didn't raise us to live this way. We always need someone to wait for us at home.
From an early age, we are taught that a relationship is what we need most as adults. A job, a home, a partner to have a full, fulfilled life with all the goals achieved.
However, every day we observe with greater force that all this does not satisfy us. We need to be ourselves, to fulfill our innermost dreams, but we are not prepared to achieve these goals and it all causes frustration due to the inability to be truly happy with ourselves.
In these moments, we take refuge in the routine of broken relationships, which bleed love from all sides, but which offer us a certain tranquility and rest, even if they are far from what we really need and dream about.
The fear of losing someone
In life we ​​have been taught to be afraid and a very big one is to lose the loved one, although what remains of the relationship is not love.
"The most difficult is not the first kiss, but the last one."
-Paul Geraldy–
Perhaps the insecurity that appears in our hearts since childhood prevents us from making the tough decisions to come, because you know that love is over, but you are unable to say it aloud or admit it to yourself.
Perhaps the terror of loneliness and of not finding anyone when you return home prevents you from making the decision which, you know, is the right one, and one does not find the courage to walk in the correct direction.
Perhaps it is all due to the fear of How will my family take it? What will my neighbors and friends think? How can I do this to my children? And in the meantime we live an unhappy and painful existence that drags our dignity with a relationship that for years has lost its passion and that every day kills our heart more and more.
It is not always easy to look inside ourselves, even less so if we are destroyed. However, it is necessary, because a broken relationship, in which there is no love left, is one of the worst curses that can imprison the soul. Be brave, then, clarify and take action to be happy again as you once were.
