Last update: February 08, 2017
It is not strange to look back and realize that there was a time when we weren't conformists. We dreamed of going far, we wanted to make our life memorable. But at some point something happened and we changed course.
We become conformists for several reasons: because we depend on other people, because we have low self-esteem, for lack of motivation or for fear of something ... One or more of these factors limit our development and personal growth and prevent us from crossing the threshold of the "right and necessary".
Each of us, in fact, can decide to live as he wants and from here we could say that everything begins. Some will do little, others will do a lot, and others just what is necessary to move forward without getting too involved in more demanding affairs.
The “extra” factor or added value in any aspect of life (i.e., do more and commit to the desire to be better) that's what makes the difference. Because this added value or plus, in addition to being a way to change the environment, to leave a mark of one's existence, is also what defines the destiny of each of us, our progress and our limits.
Conformists because we do what is strictly necessary
Conformism is closely linked to the level of interest and need we apply to ourselves. Only those who are committed to achieving their goals can build a life that blossoms at every step. Doing what is strictly necessary, on the other hand, simply means giving up the best part of life.
Of course, we often don't give ourselves the chance, or the gift, to try to answer a simple and enigmatic question: how far can we go? At the base of this attitude there is, above all, the lack of trust and the fear of making a difference. Condition that translates into laziness or indifference, the basis on which a life that "tastes neither of salt nor pepper" will be built.
Of course, it's not even about doing too much to do. Sometimes, trying to do more, you do less. As the old popular saying goes, “those who want nothing too tightly”. The secret is to put a touch of excellence in everything we do every day, however small it is. We value our actions, because each of them allows us to leave a trace of our passage through the world.
Let others commit themselves ...
There are people who struggle to grow. They know that continuing to behave like children is something that comes with great limitations, but also many benefits. One of them is never having to deal with the anxiety of making decisions, solving problems or taking responsibility for any mistakes..
No matter the age: sometimes even adults behave like children. One of the aspects that most characterizes these people is the attitude of “letting others do it”. In any uncomfortable or compromising situation, they let others act. They don't want to be the ones to take on this burden: that's why the others are there.
On balance, living on what others do makes us conform and can also lead us to cancel our abilities and potential.. These only emerge when life tests us with difficult circumstances.
The curious thing is that the more we delegate the responsibilities and risks of life to others, the more the distrust of our qualities grows within us. We thus enter a vicious circle. By leaving the task of acting to others, however, we may miss out on the most intense and constructive emotions and experiences of life..
Low self-esteem and lack of motivation
When we have low self-esteem or low motivation, we tend to fall into conformity. On the one hand, because we are unable to do a certain job and, on the other, because we do not have the necessary, and even fundamental, impulse or energy to start or carry on any project.
A case in point is that of children. Many people, when they have responsibility for other dependents, also find the motivation that drives them to create and build. And it is at this point that they stop being conformists, at least on this aspect. Sometimes even an edge situation becomes a motivation: knowing that you can sink if you don't do something. For this reason, the great crossroads of life do not always have negative consequences.
Self-esteem and motivation go hand in hand and can be instrumental in any person's level of conformity. Those who do not believe in themselves or think that they cannot count on an extra push to do and create are certainly discouraged and do nothing more than necessary to achieve a goal.
