Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: December 14, 2021
Nobody likes lies, no matter how pitiful or small. We do not like them to decide for us what we should know and what not, how we should do it and through whom we should learn about something.
Nothing is more heartbreaking than lies and hypocrisy, as both make us feel small and invulnerable, as well as lose faith in the world, they cause us to create a shell of ice that breaks us from within. For this reason, with small lies, great people are lost, because a thousand truths and hundreds of feelings that we thought were sincere are questioned.
Through deception, the bad habit of manipulating and fragmenting the experiences and feelings of others is nurtured, something that transforms us into victims and that is intolerable when it comes to guaranteeing well-being and comfort in a relationship.
I like that they tell me the truth, I will decide if it hurts or not
When a feeling as important as trust falls apart, something inside of us fails. It is really sad that good relationships and friendships are destroyed by something that could have been avoided.
In fact, when we reveal a deception, we usually think that, however harsh the reality may be, we could have endured it much better instead of betraying a person's trust. This is usually the case.
The lie always causes more pain than the truth when it is discovered. We must also not forget that the truth is very likely to come to light because, as we know, lies have short legs.In any case, it must be added that we cannot demand sincerity and then take offense in hearing the truth, always if said with respect. This is very important, because many times sincere people are addressed as "bad", thus despising actions done in good faith.
We all believe, explicitly and implicitly, that the quality of a person depends on his ability to be sincere and to show it clearly to all the people around her.
