Last update: April 11, 2016
You always go back to the old places, those where you loved life. However, Joaquin Sabina, a Spanish singer, in one of his songs says “You shouldn't try to go back to the place where you were happy”. But then, where should we point our compass?
Maybe it's really true: perhaps if we go back to the places that have marked our life, we will not see them in the same way. We will observe them with a calm gaze, without falling in love or fullness of life. We will see the buildings for what they are: structures of different materials, which welcome natives and tourists. They no longer seem to be actors placed around us to act as co-stars in our story.
Smells will no longer seem accomplices to the light of our feelings. We spend the most beautiful periods of our life, we will go through them, but we will also have to get out of them; it seems that everything is more beautiful when it has an end.
"Impossible loves cannot develop, transform, change ... That's why they never die"
(The Bridges of Madison County)
In person or in thought, we always return
There are stories that have a fixed duration in your life, and that's okay. If you try to make them last longer, they will stop warming you in the nights of cold moans and anguish, because their blanket of sweetness exists thanks to the mysterious open ending. Sometimes, it is necessary to preserve the chimeras of love as if they were a treasure: that feeling that has never been fully realized will be authentic for a lifetime for this very reason.
We always return to the old places where we loved life, even if only with the imagination. We feel the rhythm of her beats and the innocence of her breast breathing.
We always go back to the old places where we loved life, we go back with the thought. We bite our tears in the face of unexpected memories. We always return when we want to fall in love again, because we want to remember how it feels. We always come back, because we want to hope for something, we want to show that we are still capable of it.
We always come back to complain
Sometimes we go back to the old places where we loved life just to complain that we missed an opportunity. We return with regret and sadness, but with more passion because, despite everything, the flame is still burning.
We come back to complain that we weren't brave enough due to fears and insecurities. By doing so, we have gained not happiness, but comfort. These certainties are only realized once in a lifetime.
“I'll only say it once. I never said that, but these certainties are only realized once in a lifetime. "
(The Bridges of Madison County)
You always come back to show loyalty
We always return to the old places to say that no one else has made us feel the same. There have been similar people, feelings and events, but the way they touched our hearts was not the same. Sometimes we need to review our entire existence in a moment.
This way of acting so free, anarchic, unpredictable, rebellious and passionate is a treat we paid to that place, because we loved it for how it made us feel. It is not a relationship where someone loses: we both took the magic of the other to shine more. That place shines brighter after knowing we have been loyal to it. It is a secret between the two of us, but a secret that does not imprison, but frees.
Let's go back to the places where we loved life to be brave
We always return to the old places where we loved life to be brave and to heal our wounds, knowing that some of what we thought healed can start to bleed again. We always return to those places because a moment of fullness there is worth more than a thousand moments passed anywhere else. Because the days there are not happy: the days there make sense and, therefore, represent an unstoppable happiness.
We become brave again because we are aware that we will never be able to leave that place without first thanking and hearing him… Without first trying again.
