Last update: May 13, 2016
We will not tell you that overcoming a disappointment is simple or easy, because it is not. However, we cannot even say that it is impossible, because we would be lying. It is a complex but surmountable process.
As disappointment is a mix between pure pain and the feeling of betrayal, perhaps you will be interested in knowing some useful tips that will help you get through those days when the sky seems a little less blue and the night is black as ebony.
Never fall into total distrust
After having had a disappointment, a new distrust arises that seems to invade everything around usbe it people or objects. After a disappointment, which is in any case a betrayal by a loved one or a despair over something exciting that hasn't arrived in the end, it's not strange to give in to a total distrust.
It is perfectly normal to want to surround your heart with armor and not trust anything or anyone to avoid suffering again. Not a bad idea, but only if short-term and while the wound is still fresh.
Despite this, there comes a time when it is necessary to lower the defenses. One cannot live always distrusting everything and everyone. It is a serious mistake that will only cause you to lose many of the beautiful things the world has to offer.
Observe the grief for a while and arm yourself with mistrust. However, there will come a day when you will have to arm yourself with courage, break down all barriers and start living normally again., without fear of your surroundings and letting yourself be guided by hope, dreams and good people.
What loneliness is more alone than mistrust?
-George Eliot-
Seek the support of a loved one
To overcome a disappointment, there is nothing better than seeking someone's support. We all have good friends, families, and people who trust us and who deserve our affection and love.
In the most difficult moments, when you feel betrayed and dejected, the best thing to do is to look for a friendly shoulder to cry on and on which to unload some of the pain. Throw out everything that has hurt you and don't be afraid to show yourself weak or vulnerable. Someone who loves you will never use it against you.
It is very nice to be able to spend the best moments with the people we love and who love us. But it is also nice and soothing to know that some people will always be there, they will be there waiting to help us and to lend us a hand when we need it.
Do not forget that bringing out all negative things from the soul, sharing one's pain and asking for help to overcome certain obstacles is not a sign of weakness, but the opposite. Also, two people are stronger than one.
"Distrust is a sign of weakness"
-Indira Gandhi-
Only be in mourning for as long as necessary
After suffering a disappointment, it makes sense that, with pain, betrayal, and frustration, your foundation will shake, even what you believed to be the strongest. However, this situation shouldn't last forever.
Even if you may not believe it, within your heart there is the strength and confidence sufficient to overcome such a trauma. Just search through your strengths and squeeze them to the max, to find the energy you need to move forward.
You must never think that a disappointment will last forever. You must never tell yourself that you are a weak and dependent person, unable to move forward. If you do not find the strength that you have in the depths of your soul, it is because you have not searched properly.
Never forget that grief caused by disappointment cannot last forever. With an open heart, you must have continuous conversations with yourself, until you know each other enough to know where the corners of your soul are, where the courage and strength are hidden that will allow you to look forward with joy and vitality.
After a disappointment, never lose your optimism and sense of humor
It is true that, in a moment full of pain, no one wants to joke. However, when it comes to dealing with disappointment, there are no better weapons than optimism and a sense of humor.
Never stop being positive, optimistic and cheerful people. It may not be easy at first, but it is important to look for the best side of things, because it is there waiting for you to find it to make you smile.
To conclude, we would like to say that, While a disappointment is a difficult process to go through, it is not impossible to overcome. With the necessary strength, attitude, tools and positivism, nothing, however painful it may be, will last forever.
