Last update: 01 March, 2015
Infidelity is something that is really painful in a couple. When this happens, we feel that the trust and respect we had for the partner we love so much collapses completely within seconds. We no longer feel special and believe we are the partner's spare tire… Both emotionally and sexually.
Have you just been cheated on and you don't know how to react to this delicate situation, because your partner is still important to you? The first thing to do is try to calm down and not make hasty decisions or make a fuss that, in the long run, will only make you feel worse.. For this reason, below we will give you some advice to deal with this difficult situation in the best possible way.
Does he really love you?
Each couple is a world. This is why it is really difficult to say with certainty whether the other loves you or not, after having had this slip. Only your heart can tell you. And even so, if you understand that your partner had been behaving too oddly towards you for a long time (you didn't go out often, showed you less interest, didn't kiss you anymore, etc.) may be a clue that he hadn't felt anything for a long time, and for this he has been unfaithful to you.
In the face of such a situation, it is better to immediately break up and end the relationship, to ensure that everyone takes their own path. Of course, if you really feel that the relationship can still be saved, come forward. But is it really worth fighting for someone who doesn't love you? Most likely, no.
Communication first of all
Let's pretend that you only suspect that your partner is unfaithful to you. Why don't you ask him openly and try to resolve the situation? People understand each other only by talking, especially in a couple relationship. Maybe you will be able to find out what the betrayal was for. In most cases, however, there are no justifications, but as the philosopher Ortega y Gasset said, “I am me and my circumstances”. That is to say, you have to get to the heart of the matter and its surroundings if you really want to understand your partner's motives. Everything happens for a reason.
The ability to save the relationship
And so, we come to the eternal question that everyone asks: is it really possible to recover the relationship after a betrayal? This always depends on the people. It is understandable that when a person is betrayed he feels that all his trust in the other collapses irretrievably. And that's partly normal. We can forgive, sure, but is it possible to continue living in the uncertainty that our partner will cheat on us again? If he has already done it once, he can surely do it again. Managing to save your story can be really difficult, because without trust the couple is doomed to failure.
As you have surely experienced, very often it is difficult to return to love each other in the same way after there has been an infidelity. Only you can put everything on the scale and understand if it is really worth continuing to love a person who has disappointed you or if you prefer to look forward and wait for someone else who really deserves you, that you respect you and above all that you love you for who you are.
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