Last update: December 14, 2015
"A person is in love when he realizes that the other is unique"
- Jorge Luis Borges -
Certainly the perfect couple does not exist. However, to love means to respect, to admire, to always be there for better or for worse. If this is not the case, if they do not love us as we are, if they do not support us, if they humiliate us, that is not love and perhaps we are deceiving ourselves.
For this reason, often our romantic relationships are marked by our self-esteem. When we don't love ourselves, we allow the other to put us in awe, to make us feel bad… and this is not love.
How do we know if our partner really loves us?
20 reasons to love you
1. Because we admire each other
When we love someone, we admire them. We admire his way of being, of behaving with us and with others. We admire his way of seeing life, his passions ... To admire is to love.
2. Because we respect each other
When we love, we respect each other's opinions and value them. We respect who he is. Thinking differently is not a pretext for creating conflicts.
3. Why do we suffer when we feel we are hurting the other
When we love someone, we suffer if we see that we have made mistakes with him. We worry and try to repair the pain we have caused him.
4. Why do we forgive ourselves
When we love each other, we know and want to forgive. In love, not everything is a bed of roses and, at times, our partner can hurt us, in one way or another.
The nice thing is that he knows how to apologize and we forgive him without hard feelings. Because our love is strong and overcomes all obstacles.
5. Because we complement each other
Because you give me what I miss. Because I'm nervous and you calm me down. Because I am apprehensive and you make me relax. Because you complete who I am and vice versa.
6. Because we do not demand anything from the other
Because we are free and not the owners of each other, only travel companions who want to travel on the same train.
We love each other because from the first moment we looked at each other, we chose each other in the most free and respectful way possible to be travel companions. However, each of the two is an independent and complete person.
When we love, we are not half of something, but whole individuals with their own responsibilities who want to plan a future together.
7. Why we continue to be surprised
An unexpected little gift, tickets to our favorite concert, a message on your cell phone or a greeting with a smile. Small details that make the difference. All this nurtures love for the partner.
8. Because we have learned to enjoy the different stages of love
When we love someone, we know how to enjoy every phase of love. We no longer feel dizzy, but we have an unparalleled complicity. Sometimes, we want to find the butterflies we felt at the beginning… and then go back to the splendid everyday life.
9. Because we want to spend time together
When we are in a relationship with another person, we like to spend time together and share moments full of experience and feeling.
10. Why we help each other
"You know more about it than I do." “He knows this better than I do”… When we need help, we know our partner is willing to make our life easier.
11. Why don't we forget even one day: how did it go today?
It is very important for the other to know that we care about him and that every day, the first thing we do when we see each other is to ask: how did it go today?
Wanting to know how the other is doing is essential for establish the feeling of support towards the other.
12. Because we respect our spaces
Whenever we think about doing something, we include our partner, even if however, we know how to respect the moments when we need to be alone or in the company of the other.
13. Because we show our love every day with small gestures
A laugh, a kiss, a smile… are enough. A gesture can contain more than a thousand words. A gesture can be the silent symbol of love.
14. Because we still remember our past together and with affection
It's been a long time, but we remember everything we went through together. All our successes and our happiness, but also the failures and difficulties, always and in any case together and with the desire to overcome obstacles.
15. Why we defend ourselves
When we love someone, we can't stand anyone hurting our partner in one way or another. We defend it "tooth and nail".
16. Because we make ourselves feel good
When we love, we don't want our partner to feel bad about our actions and we try to make them happy by our side.
17. Because with a look we tell each other everything
When we look at our partner, we know if he is sad or worried. When we look at our partner, we know how he feels, if he is not comfortable with him or if he is really happy. Together, we learned the language of looks.
With one look we tell each other everything
18. Because there continues to be chemistry
Even though it's been a long time and some things have changed, our partner continues to like us, we still feel attraction and desire towards him.
19. Because we are patient and generous
Love doesn't always demand. Love is about giving, but also about receiving. We only love when we are able to make sacrifices for each other and try to understand it, because it is not my point of view or yours, but a balance of both.
We love when we accept each other's flaws and things we don't like, when we are patient and don't try to change someone or make them like us.
20. Because we are loyal, authentic and honest
We cannot love someone if we are not sincere and honest with them. Love has no great secrets for each other, at most of the little secrets that make us more interesting. Being loyal, authentic and honest is the foundation of trust.
