Last update: 05 March, 2016
I realized that there is someone who has been waiting for me for a long time. And that someone is me. It's time to give me the opportunity to smile and stop chasing people who don't want to be reached and who show nothing but indifference.
They say that the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. They say it kills the affection, that one should not be lazy in love, that indifference is the worst punishment and that neglecting what one loves is a real madness.
It is not okay to run after a person who already knows where you are, because it consumes you, it tears you apart, it destroys you, it hurts you, it pains you… You cannot allow the contempt of lack of interest to torment you; you are worth much more than you think.
They say that there is no lack of time, only a lack of interest: when you really want it, dawn becomes day, Tuesday becomes Saturday and a moment becomes an opportunity.
If they love you, they look for you
Do not sacrifice yourself for those who would not do the same for you: in return, you will receive only indifference. Don't sacrifice yourself for anyone, because those who love you would never ask you for anything that could hurt you or cause harm to your life.
Stop insisting and knocking on those doors that don't want to open to you. Affection cannot tolerate indifference: these two concepts are eternally enemies and without the possibility of reconciliation.
Affection is not to be begged. For this, you must work on your dignity, resurrect and stop waiting for a miracle.
Love is never wasted
“My mother always said that love is never wasted, even if you don't get paid in the same way you deserve or want.
"Let it flow," he said. - Open your heart and don't be afraid that someone will break it. Hearts that are too protected end up turning to stone ”.
Based on Heartbreak Cafe, by Penelope Stokes
This means that even if we have had bad experiences, even if someone has taken advantage of us, even if we have not been paid or have been repaid by those around us with pure selfishness, we must not throw in the towel.
At any time and place we can find reciprocity and cultivate healthy relationships. Giving love is always positive: it is not lost if we share it.
However, it must be said that giving a lot and receiving little is tired. The solution is not to place all your hopes and expectations in one feeling: it can be unrequited and, consequently, it would mess up your life.
What has to happen will happen at any moment, but not as a payment for your actions, but as a natural situation in life.
The absence of reciprocity and gratitude
There are couple and friendship relationships that are doomed to failure due to the total absence of gratitude and reciprocity. The secret to keeping a feeling alive is very simple: you have to work on it and pay attention and time to it.
However, care must be taken not to overdo it. Do we really need our partner to dedicate every second of his time and every thought to us?
If so, we need to review our emotional state, work on our needs and get rid of some emotional desires and ideas that compromise our feelings.
“To love, one must undertake an interior work that is only possible thanks to solitude”.
(Alexander Jodorowsky)
Ignore people who don't care about you
To be happy, we must learn to ignore people who punish us through indifference and who make us question our personal and social worth. We have to generate emotional distance, breathe and count to three when we meet such a person.
Each of us will have different ways to let off steam and to breathe some therapeutic air, thanks to which we can rediscover our emotions, feelings, self-respect and self-love.
To this end, we must reflect, chase away the coldness of those who show little interest in our feelings and who make us feel despised. Thus, we will surround ourselves with emotional people who will show us that the world is a beautiful place.
When we are free from everything that chains us, we can open ourselves to life and allow it to surprise us without hurting us.
Don't expect anything from anyone, expect everything from yourself, the rest will come when you least expect it.
