Last update: 03 September, 2015
When you clean up your house, you tidy up and get rid of what is useless, throw some things in the garbage. When you prepare dinner, the scraps end up in the bin. When you have accumulated a lot of documents and paperwork that you do not need in the office, you begin to get rid of them. And what happens with feelings and emotions? Is there a "basket" like that of the computer for these too?
Emotional junk continues to accumulate if we fail to eliminate it in time, until a day comes when there will be no more space to put it. The problem lies in the fact that you will not know where to put positive feelings if you are filled with negative emotions.
If it happens to you that getting out of bed you are completely unmotivated, you do not want to do anything and you have the horrible feeling that it is better to give up than to fight, then it may be that the threshold of stress and toxic emotions has passed the limit.
This situation is more frequent than one might think and can occur several times during a lifetime. When exactly? When we can't get rid of anger, resentments, stress, boredom, revenge, envy, etc. These states build up until our “hard drive” no longer has the capacity to save items.
It is true that emotional trash does not occupy a physical space, you will certainly not be thinner once it is thrown away, but it will relieve a very heavy load of a psychological, mental, spiritual nature or whatever you prefer to call it.
You must take it upon yourself to purge all negative feelings that do you no good and that, on the contrary, make you feel bad. If you don't, you may feel more and more dissatisfied with your life and, in addition, you will lack the energy to tackle your daily tasks.
If after analyzing these words, you want to start eliminating your emotional junk, you can pay attention to the following very interesting and effective steps or techniques.
First, it would be good to review your expectations. This does not mean canceling your dreams, not having plans or not seeking excellence, but reducing a bit the pressure and what you expect from yourself, as well as from others. When you have too ambitious expectations (concerning work, partner, study, plans for the future) and these are not fulfilled, the sadness and frustration will be great.
the first thing to do to eliminate emotional junk, therefore, is to review your goals and possibilities. Maybe a good idea would be to set short-term goals that, when added together, turn into something bigger. For example, instead of wanting to be the executive of the company, you first work to be a supervisor and then climb positions.
Second, always keep a positive attitude. If, on the other hand, you always think about negative things, you are more likely to fail. Why don't you start writing in a "positivity diary"? Every day write down at least three good things that have happened to you, no matter how small or insignificant they seem.
From finding a seat on the subway to running into a forgotten banknote in an old jacket, to more pleasant news like a new job, a good conversation with someone you love, etc. This way you will begin to be happier with what you have, more grateful for what is happening to you and there will be no room for negative emotions.
The third step to eliminating toxic feelings is to live happier and be more proactive. What does it mean? That it is not enough to look within ourselves and say “yes, there are negative feelings”, it is necessary to do something about it. Act as soon as possible, always at your own pace, to get rid of what is weighing on you.
Instead of sitting around watching your emotional junk build up, start cleaning up. You can choose whether to do it little by little or to spend a whole day throwing away all the scraps.
No cleaning article is needed, you can practice some techniques to do this, such as meditation, relaxation, more conscious breathing, an anger control course, etc.
You will begin to notice that "life smiles at you and that you return the smile to it" and this will affect everything around you.
