Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: December 14, 2021
Love must have a future, at least as long as it exists. One must be able to clearly feel the existence of something that keeps the hope of what remains to be lived. That is, the luminous complicity of two hearts that love each other.
Even if we are aware that nothing is eternal, especially when it comes to feelings, certainly something as strong as love seems to be.. At least while it lasts.
It is difficult to manage these terms in a world that erases our smiles with haste. Certainly, though, if the stars shine it's only because we don't stop looking at them, because if we didn't, they wouldn't even exist for us. The same goes for love, we must observe it to know it.
The sun can darken forever;
the sea can dry out in an instant;
the axis of the earth may break
like a fragile piece of crystal.
Everything will happen! Death will
cover me with his funeral mantle;
but in me it will never be extinguished
the flame of your love.
"Eternal Love" by Gustavo Adolfo Bécquer.
Love is not found, it is built
Sometimes we feel that love is no longer what it was before, that it has become distorted and that only something fleeting remains. Then we are disappointed because we no longer recognize our partner, because we are not sure that it is "the love of our life" and because we cannot understand that love is much more than two bodies that love each other..
Love does not blossom if we limit it; if we give it an expiration date, we also give it a price. What's more, sometimes it's so cheap because it's cheap (in terms of commitment, of course). A couple of looks with a kiss and a phrase that rhymes with a "I love you" light as a feather.
It is as if bodies and necessity are causing us to lose direction. One does not choose who to fall in love with, nor the time or place in which this happens. This is not love, it is something else. Love is more transcendent and purer.
The illusion of a life together
Having the illusion or the idea that our love lasts generates trust and makes projects in common. These two ingredients are essential for achieving happiness and stability in the relationship.
We must be brave and commit ourselves moment by moment. Because love is useless if we imprison it from the beginning and do not believe in its power or strength. Precisely this marks the abyss between a partner and a life partner.
If we talk about true love, we are talking about something that cannot be defined or delimited. We can't even control or imprison him, because love is so vigorous that, despite being naked, he doesn't feel vulnerable.
A love must be lived as if life were eternal, but not the other way around. We will enjoy love more if we can curb our impatience and the rush to reach goals. Ultimately, if we get rid of the fear of impermanence, change and the cycles of love.
