Last update: 04 September, 2015
“We all know self-esteem
it comes from what you think about yourself,
not from what others think of you ”.
(Gloria Gaynor)
After a long wandering, after having felt like a boat at the mercy of the waves, after having passed the storms of love, after having wished to be able to meet one day or another the love of my life, I finally met him ...
The love of my life is me. I learned to love myself, to take care of myself, to respect myself; I learned to dialogue with myself about my mistakes and my defeats, forgiving myself without rancor.
I think I've found the perfect partner: me. I say this without being pretentious, but just to explain to myself that finally I got a beautiful, stable and healthy love relationship with my deepest being.
Because I am a half apple who does not need another half to feel complete, because all of us are already complete if we can achieve peace and happiness with ourselves and with what we do. We don't necessarily need to seek the love or approval of others.
Because I no longer need to make myself beautiful to look for someone to fall in love with me. Because I keep making myself beautiful, yes, but for myself, and if someone notices me, so much the better ... Always if the goal is to make each other happy, without mysteries or complications. “Do you want to be happy too, to continue walking the path of life… with me? Yup? Well, because I want it too ”.
First of all, and above all, we must be sure of ourselves, love ourselves with our defects and our virtues. It doesn't matter that there are people who are more beautiful, smarter or with more charisma than us.
Each is unique and irreplaceable, and it is precisely in this that our greatness lies. In this and in wanting to improve what we have inside ... and, why not, also our external appearance. Wanting to be beautiful is not always negative, always if it does not turn into an obsession with wanting to please everyone, due to the insecurity that leads us to believe that we are not worth enough. Complexes that lead us to focus all our attention on this, forgetting all our strengths.
Let's stop it! Be happy for who you are, you will reflect this security and everyone will notice it. We can give you a simple example, which for sure will be dear to all Italians.
Do you remember the shy Laura Pausini at the beginning of her career? Always wrapped in coats and baggy dresses. Not long ago she herself admitted laughing: “At first my producers wanted to mask my hips and lower back with those horrible coats… But live the shapes!“. This sympathetic and sincere confession sparked laughter and applause from an audience who adore it. Because? Because she is nice, natural and chatty ... And she doesn't need a perfect physique to be an attractive and charming woman. She is happy the way she is, and the audience feels it.
Why can't we too, who are not famous people, always in the spotlight? How many actors and singers continue to please thousands of women even if they are not perfect, but manage to be confident and charming?
Follow their example and start being the love of your life, loving yourself and being happy for who you are!
How about giving it a try?
