Last update: May 01, 2016
The most intimate encounter between two people is not the sexual one, it is the emotional nude. An exchange that arises when fear is overcome and we dedicate ourselves to knowing each other as we are, in all our facets.
It is not easy to do it. In fact, emotional nudity is not achieved lightly or with anyone. It takes time, strength and a desire to listen, feel and embrace emotions. Self-awareness and hetero-consciousness, or knowing ourselves and the reality of the other.
Seen in this way, it does not seem accidental that the word chosen by the biblical scriptures to speak of sexual love or intimacy is KNOWLEDGE. This article will be about getting to know each other and getting naked in our passions, feelings and emotional history.
The emotional nude begins with us
Uncovering our emotions starts with ourselves. This means that it is very important to identify with feelings and realize what makes us feel comfortable and what is not, what we think and how we can use our emotions in the service of our thoughts.
Listen to us, connect and learn about our emotional heritage; exploring our emotional body is essential to give vent to our fears, our conflicts, insecurities, successes, things learned, etc.
Knowing our emotional philosophy, exploring our weaknesses, being aware of what hurts us and letting go is essential for to be able to contemplate the image that our emotional mirror projects to us when we take off the clothes that “dress” us.
Being aware of our emotional vulnerabilities will not make them disappear, but having a deeper awareness of them implies that every time they appear in our life, we will be able to identify them and act on them, preventing them from drowning our emotional bonds.
Our emotional legacy, the key to connecting
Our emotional heritage has a strong impact on our ability to emotionally connect with others when we need to. It is this baggage, this skin, that makes us contextualize and act in certain ways towards our sensations, feelings and emotions.
Exposing ourselves to our memories and to those feelings that we can perceive as unpleasant is not easy and many times not even useful. However, there is no doubt that there are many reasons why it is advisable to get naked:
- If we want to have more meaningful relationships, it is important to stop and look back and heal the emotional wounds of our childhood.
- The threads that carry our emotional messages must be uncovered to avoid being dominated by our reactions. For example, when we say that "our brother gets on our nerves", we actually make him aware of which button to touch to make us angry.
- Knowing the guidelines of emotional reactions and communicating them helps us to regenerate our thoughts and our general well-being.
- So when we engage in a process of self-awareness, our internal dialogue may be able to change from "People are dangerous to me" to "The way they treat me has hurt me, but I am aware of it and do not do myself. to influence".
- When we access our emotional heritage by realizing how past feelings affect present experiences, we will be facilitated when it comes to establishing strong and healthy bonds of union with those around us.
- Being aware of the emotional filters, coatings, and armor we wear helps make us skilled readers and interpreters of others' attempts to connect as well as our own.
It is not easy to expose an injured person
Emotionally stripping people who have been hurt by the past can be difficult, then it will be necessary to fight against the clothes that make them inaccessible, against the disillusions that surround them, the fears of rejection, abandonment, loneliness ...
To do this, it is necessary to be intelligent, to love the person and to listen, to open one's eyes and skin, leaving aside prejudices and judgment. It means, therefore, to listen actively and emotionally through all the senses without "but" or misplaced commas.
To do this, we must understand that an emotional nude is not created in any environment, but that the right conditions must exist to generate emotions, feel them, manipulate them, examine them and use them.
The ideal emotional scenarios to get naked are those in which the first listening is the inner one, empathy and emotional intelligence. Scenarios in which communication and understanding are enhanced with a solid foundation of respect and tolerance.
Only in this way will we be able to create an emotionally relaxed environment, in which it will be possible to have a true intimate encounter, to expose fears, insecurities and true emotions. Only in this way will we be able to give those hugs that break fears, that close our eyes and that deliver us 200% in body and spirit.
